Soft Blow
Okay so a few weeks ago I wrote an entry regarding a guy I was unsure about because he came across as needy by text here. I listened to the advice given and decided to give him a chance, while also being direct regarding my boundaries. He knows now I like my space and to give me time. And he's more than happy to go with the flow.
In those short few weeks we have come a long way and done a lot together. I can honestly say he's one of the sweetest guys I know and we laugh a lot. We have a lot of things in common so we genuinely enjoy our time together. Now here's the problem... Since we have been seeing a lot of each other we have become intimate. The first couple of times we were making out and rubbing up against each other I was surprised that (unlike most guys) he didn't want to sleep with me. We would just fool around then go out or he would play with me.
Then I later realised that while we fool around and pretty much rubbing up against each other, he doesn't get hard. Now I will either go down on him or give him a hand job to try and get him going but he's still pretty flaccid even if he gets bigger. We attempted to have sex last few times but he would just get soft unless I kept touching him. We have yet to successfully have sex.. I have got him to finish a few times so it's not like he doesn't 'cum' but I have to be honest, I'm starting to get frustrated and thinking we might never actually have sex since he seems to have difficulty performing. And since everything is fairly new, its difficult to talk about and I don't want to embarrass him. Sex is very important to me and especially in a relationship. Sure we get to fool around and get each other off (hard work to get him off though) but it's not enough for me. Since I'm nearing my 30's, I think about sex all the time and have a high sex drive unlike when I was in my early 20's. And he's 24 so is quite concerning that someone younger than me are having these issues.
I'm not quite sure what to do and how to bring this up as he's obviously aware of it too lol. Has anyone been with someone with ED (Erectile Dysfunction)?
In those short few weeks we have come a long way and done a lot together. I can honestly say he's one of the sweetest guys I know and we laugh a lot. We have a lot of things in common so we genuinely enjoy our time together. Now here's the problem... Since we have been seeing a lot of each other we have become intimate. The first couple of times we were making out and rubbing up against each other I was surprised that (unlike most guys) he didn't want to sleep with me. We would just fool around then go out or he would play with me.
Then I later realised that while we fool around and pretty much rubbing up against each other, he doesn't get hard. Now I will either go down on him or give him a hand job to try and get him going but he's still pretty flaccid even if he gets bigger. We attempted to have sex last few times but he would just get soft unless I kept touching him. We have yet to successfully have sex.. I have got him to finish a few times so it's not like he doesn't 'cum' but I have to be honest, I'm starting to get frustrated and thinking we might never actually have sex since he seems to have difficulty performing. And since everything is fairly new, its difficult to talk about and I don't want to embarrass him. Sex is very important to me and especially in a relationship. Sure we get to fool around and get each other off (hard work to get him off though) but it's not enough for me. Since I'm nearing my 30's, I think about sex all the time and have a high sex drive unlike when I was in my early 20's. And he's 24 so is quite concerning that someone younger than me are having these issues.
I'm not quite sure what to do and how to bring this up as he's obviously aware of it too lol. Has anyone been with someone with ED (Erectile Dysfunction)?