Help
I need help!
My boyfriend of 5+ years wants to break up with me (according to the "conversation" we had this morning in his mind it is over), because he says that I can't change, that I never show him that I want him or desire him, and when I do attempt to show him that I want and desire him, that it is fake. He said that he will believe that I can change when he sees it and that if I am not getting what I want, I need to try something else. (He believes that how a person reacts to another person is how that other person (in this case me) is making that other person react, so lets say I say "Hey lets get some food," and he reacts negatively to that, it is because I wanted him to react that way and that it has nothing to do with him.)
I do love him very much, and I can't tell him, it just won't work (believe me, I have been trying all weekend), I need ideas to show him that I love him, techniques to show desire, basically anything.
I also need some advice on how to change my attitude so that he can see how much I care about him, at this point I feel so down and defeated that I can't even show I care. I feel like this is my last chance, please help me!
ps. I know that this is a little weird and maybe I should just move on, but at this point, that isn't really an option for a variety of reasons, plus we planned a trip over Christmas time for me to meet his extended family and I want things to be going really well for us by then. I also just love him very very much and have an extremely difficult time showing him (because actions do speak louder than words).
My boyfriend of 5+ years wants to break up with me (according to the "conversation" we had this morning in his mind it is over), because he says that I can't change, that I never show him that I want him or desire him, and when I do attempt to show him that I want and desire him, that it is fake. He said that he will believe that I can change when he sees it and that if I am not getting what I want, I need to try something else. (He believes that how a person reacts to another person is how that other person (in this case me) is making that other person react, so lets say I say "Hey lets get some food," and he reacts negatively to that, it is because I wanted him to react that way and that it has nothing to do with him.)
I do love him very much, and I can't tell him, it just won't work (believe me, I have been trying all weekend), I need ideas to show him that I love him, techniques to show desire, basically anything.
I also need some advice on how to change my attitude so that he can see how much I care about him, at this point I feel so down and defeated that I can't even show I care. I feel like this is my last chance, please help me!
ps. I know that this is a little weird and maybe I should just move on, but at this point, that isn't really an option for a variety of reasons, plus we planned a trip over Christmas time for me to meet his extended family and I want things to be going really well for us by then. I also just love him very very much and have an extremely difficult time showing him (because actions do speak louder than words).