Yup, just take it slow and when you think you're ready for a new partner, you should be fine. Just make sure you're not having sex with someone new to get over the first and you shouldn't have the emotional issue. Pain wise, treat it like your first time and make sure your body is ready.
I never had that problem and there was only about a month between my ex boyfriend and my husband. My ex and I had been together for 3 years and was my first everything. I think if maybe you forsee that as being a problem you need to slow way down and still work on whatever issues you may have left from the ex.
I would just make sure to take it at your own pace and don't allow the guy to pressure you. If you start to become uncomfortable or have reservations, or even start thinking about your ex, then you know it's time to hold on for a while. It's more of a personal call. Only you know where you are mentally in terms of relationships.
As for having sex with a new person, it depends. If you haven't had sex freqently, or didn't with your ex after the first time, it is much more likely to be somewhat painful. There can also be a little bit of pain if your new partner is better endowed than your ex, especially if you aren't completely ready. Just take it slow until you're sure it isn't going to hurt and then have fun. Talk to your guy and tell him your reservations and I'm sure that he'll be more than willing to make you as comfortable as possible.
it was actually a weird situation, because we did have sex plenty until i started having medical problems in january -- then for the last 6 months of our relationship, we weren't able to. all of the medical stuff is cleared up now, but i know i'm going to be "out of practice," and it may be painful due to both that and it being a new guy. but i'm definitely not doing anything until i feel 100% ready.
I would suggest taking it slow, because on top of all that, how are you so sure that he is not just using you to get sex? He may seem all nice, but even the nice boys are liars...sorry, I've just come across this too many times. I don't want to see anyone else get hurt. Especially someone who just lost their virginity not too long ago. Good luck, bb.
thank you for your concern! yes, i'm scared of this too. i'm not too sure i want a serious relationship right now, since the breakup is rather fresh, so i do want to take this slow in some respects. honestly, the physical part is not seeming very emotional to me right now, so that's why i'm not too concerned about him using me for sex; if he is, that sucks, but it's not going to kill me if he doesn't want a relationship. i plan to discuss all of this with him at some point very soon.
Definately take it at a pace in which you are comfortable with.
Having sex with someone new does take some getting used to. I started dating my husband quickly after my ex and I broke up. The first few times were a little akward because we weren't familiar with each others bodies yet. Otherwise it was fine; there was no pain, and I did not have any sort of emotional attachment to my ex. After a few times the sex became amazing. I always assumed that sex was good when I was with my ex because I had nothing to compare it to. When I started having sex with my husband I was blown away by the difference. Sex does feel different with different people.
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I think if maybe you forsee that as being a problem you need to slow way down and still work on whatever issues you may have left from the ex.
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As for having sex with a new person, it depends. If you haven't had sex freqently, or didn't with your ex after the first time, it is much more likely to be somewhat painful. There can also be a little bit of pain if your new partner is better endowed than your ex, especially if you aren't completely ready. Just take it slow until you're sure it isn't going to hurt and then have fun. Talk to your guy and tell him your reservations and I'm sure that he'll be more than willing to make you as comfortable as possible.
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Medical problems suck. Glad to hear you're over them.
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Having sex with someone new does take some getting used to. I started dating my husband quickly after my ex and I broke up. The first few times were a little akward because we weren't familiar with each others bodies yet. Otherwise it was fine; there was no pain, and I did not have any sort of emotional attachment to my ex. After a few times the sex became amazing. I always assumed that sex was good when I was with my ex because I had nothing to compare it to. When I started having sex with my husband I was blown away by the difference. Sex does feel different with different people.
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