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25/f/PA
So I've been seeing this guy now for almost 2 months now. He's a really outgoing guy and we get along good.
He is very open with expressing his emotions verbally and is very affectionate. That doesn't bother me, I like that. My problem is, is that I have a hard time being that way towards him.
I think part of it is, he is actually the first good guy I've dated in a long time. The other part of it is, I think because as I was growing up, my father was not emotionally there for me, so having guys liking me in general is hard for me to understand; what usually ends up happening is that the guy thinks I don't really like him because I can't express how I feel. In a way I don't know how to express these kinds of feelings and am also afraid to, I'm scared of being hurt (which has happened many times before in the past).
I don't want to ruin things with this guy because I can't communicate how I feel. He says its hard to read me sometimes, he doesn't know if he should give me compliments, be affectionate, ect. I don't want him to have to feel that way. I do always tell him though that I do like him and enjoy being around him.
He called me yesterday and the first thing he said was he wasn't sure as to where "we" are going. It made me feel so insecure. Then he just went into talking about his plans for the day (which was weird). I know I have a problem with commitment, because I don't want to get hurt...as of this moment I just like spending time with him. I'm scared of having that "are we taking this to the next level talk" with him. But, he ended the phone call with "I just wanted to call and say hi and that I've been thinking of you and that I think you're beautiful!"
Has anyone had a situation like this?? I'm scared that he will end it with me because I'm not "expressive" enough....I would be really upset if that happened. Any ideas as to how I can relax and open up to him more?? I don't want to hold myself back anymore...
So I've been seeing this guy now for almost 2 months now. He's a really outgoing guy and we get along good.
He is very open with expressing his emotions verbally and is very affectionate. That doesn't bother me, I like that. My problem is, is that I have a hard time being that way towards him.
I think part of it is, he is actually the first good guy I've dated in a long time. The other part of it is, I think because as I was growing up, my father was not emotionally there for me, so having guys liking me in general is hard for me to understand; what usually ends up happening is that the guy thinks I don't really like him because I can't express how I feel. In a way I don't know how to express these kinds of feelings and am also afraid to, I'm scared of being hurt (which has happened many times before in the past).
I don't want to ruin things with this guy because I can't communicate how I feel. He says its hard to read me sometimes, he doesn't know if he should give me compliments, be affectionate, ect. I don't want him to have to feel that way. I do always tell him though that I do like him and enjoy being around him.
He called me yesterday and the first thing he said was he wasn't sure as to where "we" are going. It made me feel so insecure. Then he just went into talking about his plans for the day (which was weird). I know I have a problem with commitment, because I don't want to get hurt...as of this moment I just like spending time with him. I'm scared of having that "are we taking this to the next level talk" with him. But, he ended the phone call with "I just wanted to call and say hi and that I've been thinking of you and that I think you're beautiful!"
Has anyone had a situation like this?? I'm scared that he will end it with me because I'm not "expressive" enough....I would be really upset if that happened. Any ideas as to how I can relax and open up to him more?? I don't want to hold myself back anymore...