I think it's because you two have only been an item for 2.5 months. Maybe he's not comfortable with things moving this fast. I mean how much do you really know about a person in 2.5 months even IF you are dating them? He could be trying to hide something but I'd go with the latter. He's just not comfortable.
But I don't see WHY it's such a big committment. Is it because we'd be staying with my mom? Or is it the act itself? (I'm going to travel 2000 miles with you) I know we'd have lots of fun when we're down there if I could get him to go with me.
I view going somewhere on our own as more of a committment than that trip would be. If we go to GA, we're staying with my mom & step-dad as opposed to by ourselves in a hotel. It'd be a lot less expensive too for the obvious reasons.
I'm just saying, if camping falls through for whatever reason (and he says he doesn't want to go for more than a couple days if it's just the 2 of us, grr) I want to go somewhere and do something.
I am moving 8 hours away for school in September and we are going to be LDR (he knew this when we started dating and we spent like the first 3 weeks LDR) so I really want us to spend some quality time together before I have to leave. I don't think he realizes how important that is to me.
Try telling him how important it is for you to spend time together. He very well may not realize and may just see it as "zomg she wants to go stay with her parents... next she going to start talking about marriage!"
Its really not that big a committment for today's day and age but we all grew up with the idea that... meeting the parents is done right before getting married and is a big deal. I know its was drilled into my head big time.
Plus its going to a place he's never been, where he knows no one except for you... and kinda your mom. You will be staying in a house with parents. I'm sure that its sends little bells and whistles off in his head that he's not aware of...or WHY he's so not into going.
ditto! 2.5 months is a short time...perhaps unless both of you head down to georgia but stayed in a hotel as opposed to your mom's place or something? just a suggestion (:
Both of us are broke students so that's not really an option and we wouldn't have a car because neither of us are old enough to rent one or have our full licences. (and you have to drive EVERYWHERE down there)
Well I know if I was in the same boat as your boy I'd be kinda freaked out too.
You guys haven't been dating that long and sure, MEETING parents is fine and cool but leaving the country to go stay with them... yeah that kinda a big thing. You my not feel that way and sure be disappointed that he doesn't want to go but...yeah, he's not comfortable and forcing him or telling him he's coping out isn't going to help him feel better.
Also it doesn't matter HOW much fun you promise to have. YOU are a crap load more comfortable with your parents then anyone else ever will be. Hell. I was with my ex for 10 years, almost married and I didn't like going to his parents who lived two towns over without him.
It might suck and you may not understand but try and have some compassion and sympathy for him, I doubt he's just "coping out"
I think it just might be the act of traveling that far? Is it possible that money is an issue? Maybe he's comfortable doing things with you in a comfortable surrounding, but the thought of flying across the continent is just a little scary or nerve-wrecking to him? Even if he's met your mom already, I'd think there's a big difference traveling that far to see your mom again. And like everyone else said, three months isn't all that long for two people to be dating.
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Maybe he's not comfortable with things moving this fast. I mean how much do you really know about a person in 2.5 months even IF you are dating them? He could be trying to hide something but I'd go with the latter. He's just not comfortable.
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I view going somewhere on our own as more of a committment than that trip would be. If we go to GA, we're staying with my mom & step-dad as opposed to by ourselves in a hotel. It'd be a lot less expensive too for the obvious reasons.
I'm just saying, if camping falls through for whatever reason (and he says he doesn't want to go for more than a couple days if it's just the 2 of us, grr) I want to go somewhere and do something.
I am moving 8 hours away for school in September and we are going to be LDR (he knew this when we started dating and we spent like the first 3 weeks LDR) so I really want us to spend some quality time together before I have to leave. I don't think he realizes how important that is to me.
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Its really not that big a committment for today's day and age but we all grew up with the idea that... meeting the parents is done right before getting married and is a big deal. I know its was drilled into my head big time.
Plus its going to a place he's never been, where he knows no one except for you... and kinda your mom. You will be staying in a house with parents. I'm sure that its sends little bells and whistles off in his head that he's not aware of...or WHY he's so not into going.
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You guys haven't been dating that long and sure, MEETING parents is fine and cool but leaving the country to go stay with them... yeah that kinda a big thing. You my not feel that way and sure be disappointed that he doesn't want to go but...yeah, he's not comfortable and forcing him or telling him he's coping out isn't going to help him feel better.
Also it doesn't matter HOW much fun you promise to have. YOU are a crap load more comfortable with your parents then anyone else ever will be. Hell. I was with my ex for 10 years, almost married and I didn't like going to his parents who lived two towns over without him.
It might suck and you may not understand but try and have some compassion and sympathy for him, I doubt he's just "coping out"
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he isn't comfortable with going, and a 2.5 month relationship is still very very new. meeting mom is one thing, going home for a vacation is another.
work on planning something else for you and him.
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