Update with Help moving on...
Background Info: See my previous post, Here. Long story short. I was in a 10 year relationship. November of 2006 he cheated on me and told me a week later. I then went into therapy to try and get over it. In April I came here looking for advice on something I knew I was going to have to do. Shortly after that post I broke it off, the engagment, the marrage, even me living with him. Within hours of breaking of the relationship with my ex I was in a new one, with the guyfrom work, but thats a whole other can of worms for another post later.
So, here's my issues. My ex has become a very large and agressive asshole. And asshole is putting it lightly. When I moved out he told me what I couldn't and couldn't take ( read my entry here if your interested in more details). I grew a backbone and finally stood up to him. Since then he's been hostile and aggressive whenever I've had to deal with him. Which thankfully hasn't been long. Now he's harassing me about the car loan he co-signed... which I basically told him to go fuck himself and talk to me when he gets a lawyer. more on that here
So he keeps upsetting me. 90% of the time during the week I am fine. I'm a happy girl thats found herself in a really nice casual relationship with a guy she really likes. I'm happy. I don't think I'm bi-polar any more. I truely believe that that past relationship was making me that way. Sometimes though, I will think about him and it all kinda goes to pot. I know that time will help me deal with how i feel about my ex. That I only miss him because it was such a huge part....
Question: How would you all deal with this? And for those that have ended long relationships, how did you get over it? What helps everyone get over "them"? Also, how do I deal with him being so angry. Most of the time ignore it and let it slide of my back, but I know he's going to be childish and talk about me in a vicious manner and try and cause as much pain as he can...When he contacts me should I just ignore how mean and vicious he is? I know I shouldn't get on his level and call him names back. Basically, how would everyone handle themselves if they were me....
So, here's my issues. My ex has become a very large and agressive asshole. And asshole is putting it lightly. When I moved out he told me what I couldn't and couldn't take ( read my entry here if your interested in more details). I grew a backbone and finally stood up to him. Since then he's been hostile and aggressive whenever I've had to deal with him. Which thankfully hasn't been long. Now he's harassing me about the car loan he co-signed... which I basically told him to go fuck himself and talk to me when he gets a lawyer. more on that here
So he keeps upsetting me. 90% of the time during the week I am fine. I'm a happy girl thats found herself in a really nice casual relationship with a guy she really likes. I'm happy. I don't think I'm bi-polar any more. I truely believe that that past relationship was making me that way. Sometimes though, I will think about him and it all kinda goes to pot. I know that time will help me deal with how i feel about my ex. That I only miss him because it was such a huge part....
Question: How would you all deal with this? And for those that have ended long relationships, how did you get over it? What helps everyone get over "them"? Also, how do I deal with him being so angry. Most of the time ignore it and let it slide of my back, but I know he's going to be childish and talk about me in a vicious manner and try and cause as much pain as he can...When he contacts me should I just ignore how mean and vicious he is? I know I shouldn't get on his level and call him names back. Basically, how would everyone handle themselves if they were me....