surely it should be called "nag an ex-friend"
so, yeah, take a look at my userinfo for a second -- or, really, anyone's except your own. up at the top, the new button between the "search this journal" magnifying glass and the "give gift" parcel, the button that looks like the LJ-user icon shooting a fountain of toothpaste or some other white substance toward the 'camera'?
"nudge a friend", that button is, and how it works is, if you and the person whose userinfo you're looking at are mutual LJ-friends, and you click the button at that person's userinfo, that person gets an e-mail that says "Hey [username], Your mutual friend [username] has noticed that you have not recently updated your journal on LiveJournal. Be a friend and go post. Sincerely, the LiveJournal team".
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let me take this opportunity to assure you that you're right to suspect i would not react well if such an e-mail were to land in my box. i'm not saying it would lead to summary de-flisting, but i'd probably say unpleasant things both to and about anyone who tried it, and more to the point, it would bug the shit out of me, and if you and i are friends, surely you do not wish to bug the shit out of me? isn't that right up near the top of what it means to be a friend?
now, granted, i've been saying for years that 'friend' is a silly name for 'person whose journal i read' (and an even sillier name for 'person who reads my journal'), so, maybe we're LJ-friends but not, you know, friends, and you do want to bug the shit out of me. who knows. could happen. if, however, you and i really are friends, and you notice that it's been a while since i've posted and i didn't say i was going anywhere net-less and in addition to missing my sparkling wit, boy-related angst, occasional fangirl behaviors about movies and TV and curling, and incomprehensible rambling about grad school, you find that you are concerned not to have heard from me because something may have happened, then, you know, send me an e-mail you wrote yourself. or, better yet, call me! or call someone you think may have heard from me. just, for christ's sake, don't fucking auto-nag me with the push of a button.
thanks to rahalia_cat for the heads-up, and nardasarmy for details.
"nudge a friend", that button is, and how it works is, if you and the person whose userinfo you're looking at are mutual LJ-friends, and you click the button at that person's userinfo, that person gets an e-mail that says "Hey [username], Your mutual friend [username] has noticed that you have not recently updated your journal on LiveJournal. Be a friend and go post. Sincerely, the LiveJournal team".
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let me take this opportunity to assure you that you're right to suspect i would not react well if such an e-mail were to land in my box. i'm not saying it would lead to summary de-flisting, but i'd probably say unpleasant things both to and about anyone who tried it, and more to the point, it would bug the shit out of me, and if you and i are friends, surely you do not wish to bug the shit out of me? isn't that right up near the top of what it means to be a friend?
now, granted, i've been saying for years that 'friend' is a silly name for 'person whose journal i read' (and an even sillier name for 'person who reads my journal'), so, maybe we're LJ-friends but not, you know, friends, and you do want to bug the shit out of me. who knows. could happen. if, however, you and i really are friends, and you notice that it's been a while since i've posted and i didn't say i was going anywhere net-less and in addition to missing my sparkling wit, boy-related angst, occasional fangirl behaviors about movies and TV and curling, and incomprehensible rambling about grad school, you find that you are concerned not to have heard from me because something may have happened, then, you know, send me an e-mail you wrote yourself. or, better yet, call me! or call someone you think may have heard from me. just, for christ's sake, don't fucking auto-nag me with the push of a button.
thanks to rahalia_cat for the heads-up, and nardasarmy for details.