fancy romancey
My friend Trent aka vanillajoke just posted about proposing to his girlfriend this past weekend, and reading about it has me all giddy. (Another wonderful LJ friend, Christy aka marinshellstone is getting married soon and recently posted photos of herself trying on her lovely vintage wedding dress! She looked SO beautiful and radiant.)
I know I always hum and haw about marriage and how I'm not entirely sure about it, etc. But damn if hearing about amazing proposals doesn't get me all girly-as-shit.
When it comes down to it, I think that yes, I do want to get married someday, and I hope that whoever ends up proposing to me really takes time to make it special for both of us, because the proposal, in my opinion, is the cutest part of the whole ordeal. It's all downhill from there! Just kidding.
I mean, I don't want any big fancy production... that's not that important to me. But I would love for it to be thoughtful, and have some kind of meaning. For example, Dave used to joke that he was going to propose to me during a Midwives (his old band) set one night, like come down off the stage and whatever... Something like that. It's not elaborate or expensive, just sweet.
Actually! Probably the best proposal ever would be if there were any possible way in hell that, if Faith No More ever plays here, and Dave somehow got Mike Patton to conduct the proposal in between "Kindergarten" and I dunno, "Surprise! You're dead!" or "Everything's Ruined," THAT would be the most perfect, dreamy marriage proposal I can even think of! Hahahahahaha okay I'm insane and seriously dreaming, but hey, why not? I would shart so hard.
When I think about wedding stuff, I'm not into like, ridiculous princess weddings or anything... I really just want to get married in a forest at dusk in some sort of simple-ish dress with feathers on it, or in my hair... But there are two cliche wedding things that, as hardened and cynical as I can be, will always make me totally choke up, and I fear going through them because I know I'll be a basketcase of emotions:
1. A girl's father "giving her away".
This tradition is somewhat anti-feminist, but fuck, I am a total sucker for father-daughter touching moments (sorry about the creepy wording of that, hahahaha). As long-time readers of my journal know, my relationship with my dad has been kind of rocky and strained for the past few years, after me being a real daddy's girl growing up, and so anything involving the relationship between father and daughter just slays me emotionally. You should see me try to watch "Father of the Bride"! Holy fuck. I lose it.
2. The moment when the groom first sees their bride-to-be coming down the aisle (and conversely, the bride first sees her groom-tp-be waiting for her at the end of the aisle). (For the sake of being PC, you can substitute either "bride" or "groom" with "groom" or "bride"... Whatevahhh.)
Ahhhh! Jesus! Have you ever seen that Moore's commercial where it's like, a bride walking down the aisle, and the groom is waiting there, and the voiceover is all "while everyone in the room is looking at her, she'll only have eyes for you" or something like that? I CRY every damn time. For some reason, thinking about seeing each other for the first time in your wedding get-ups, knowing you're about to do this huge thing together, and you both are thinking "oh my god, he/she looks so unbelievably handsome/beautiful and amazing right now I could just keel over and die right here..." It makes my chest seize up in love.
Okay. Enough. I need to sleep and stop being such a romantic right now, hahaha.
I know I always hum and haw about marriage and how I'm not entirely sure about it, etc. But damn if hearing about amazing proposals doesn't get me all girly-as-shit.
When it comes down to it, I think that yes, I do want to get married someday, and I hope that whoever ends up proposing to me really takes time to make it special for both of us, because the proposal, in my opinion, is the cutest part of the whole ordeal. It's all downhill from there! Just kidding.
I mean, I don't want any big fancy production... that's not that important to me. But I would love for it to be thoughtful, and have some kind of meaning. For example, Dave used to joke that he was going to propose to me during a Midwives (his old band) set one night, like come down off the stage and whatever... Something like that. It's not elaborate or expensive, just sweet.
Actually! Probably the best proposal ever would be if there were any possible way in hell that, if Faith No More ever plays here, and Dave somehow got Mike Patton to conduct the proposal in between "Kindergarten" and I dunno, "Surprise! You're dead!" or "Everything's Ruined," THAT would be the most perfect, dreamy marriage proposal I can even think of! Hahahahahaha okay I'm insane and seriously dreaming, but hey, why not? I would shart so hard.
When I think about wedding stuff, I'm not into like, ridiculous princess weddings or anything... I really just want to get married in a forest at dusk in some sort of simple-ish dress with feathers on it, or in my hair... But there are two cliche wedding things that, as hardened and cynical as I can be, will always make me totally choke up, and I fear going through them because I know I'll be a basketcase of emotions:
1. A girl's father "giving her away".
This tradition is somewhat anti-feminist, but fuck, I am a total sucker for father-daughter touching moments (sorry about the creepy wording of that, hahahaha). As long-time readers of my journal know, my relationship with my dad has been kind of rocky and strained for the past few years, after me being a real daddy's girl growing up, and so anything involving the relationship between father and daughter just slays me emotionally. You should see me try to watch "Father of the Bride"! Holy fuck. I lose it.
2. The moment when the groom first sees their bride-to-be coming down the aisle (and conversely, the bride first sees her groom-tp-be waiting for her at the end of the aisle). (For the sake of being PC, you can substitute either "bride" or "groom" with "groom" or "bride"... Whatevahhh.)
Ahhhh! Jesus! Have you ever seen that Moore's commercial where it's like, a bride walking down the aisle, and the groom is waiting there, and the voiceover is all "while everyone in the room is looking at her, she'll only have eyes for you" or something like that? I CRY every damn time. For some reason, thinking about seeing each other for the first time in your wedding get-ups, knowing you're about to do this huge thing together, and you both are thinking "oh my god, he/she looks so unbelievably handsome/beautiful and amazing right now I could just keel over and die right here..." It makes my chest seize up in love.
Okay. Enough. I need to sleep and stop being such a romantic right now, hahaha.