The view from inside

[darkrosetiger]

In this post, researchgrrrl wrote about her experiences as a rape survivor, and how it informs her belief that writing rapefic about real people is wrong. I admire the courage it must have taken for her to write that post, and to make it public, and I am in no way denying that she is entitled to express her opinion. However, I have to disagree with her comment

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[bibliotech]

...you know, I know it's not a Good Thing to have to deal with rape and the aftermath and whatnot, but I'm kinda tired of people who have dealt with this (admittedly) awful thing, going on to tell people that writing about it or wanting to explore that as a power dynamic or whatever they want to do that's safe, sane and consensual is now wrong. And then everyone just looks at their hands and goes "...oh, no," because who wants to argue with someone that's been raped in favour of rapefic?

So, world? Hi, my name's Eve. I'm black! You are totally allowed to think that black people are hot. Not in that objectifying way, but in that "I'd hit that" way. Also, this one time at band camp, my boyfriend thought it would be great to shove a pipe up my ass. Actually, that was a lot of times at band camp, but the moral of that story is never go to band camp. But it's totally okay with me if you want to read rapefic or play that out in your own home with someone you love and trust! Also, I am "special needs", and if you see anyone complaining about how the neurotypicals of the world just can't understaaaaand their paaaaain, feel free to tell them to shut the hell up. It's okay, I gave you permission. Go forth and sin some more!

[almostnever]

I think what's she's getting at is that a victim of rape can tell you not to write rapefic, but as much as you respect what they've been through, it doesn't necessarily make them any more convincing on the ethical question than a victim of rape telling you that you can write whatever you want.