I find it amusing, (and only so because amusement is better than despair), that it sucks worse breaking up with someone you aren't even dating
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The reason love is so special is because it is so complex... so confusing. So when you do have feelings for someone, all the hurts cease to matter.
If you and Jill still have strong feelings for each other, I don't see why you don't continue the relationship. But, I'm sure you have your reasons.
You'll prolly have to give it a week or two without seeing her... maybe a month or more. But certainly don't walk out of her life completely. There will always be the question of "what if things worked out?" lingering in the back of your mind... but you're going to have to push it aside if you want to be her friend. Which you certainly want to be, or you wouldn't have written this post.
Now as for how to get her out of our head... copious amounts of pornograpy, masturbation, and video games seems to numb the mind completely to pain. Though once you're dating a different woman, you won't give it a second thought
As for the "stuff" if you have no use for it, and she wants it, why not sell it to her at the "nerd friend" price? That way she still gets to keep it and you make back some of the money you'd get for selling it. If not, how much you selling the computer and PS2 for? ;-)
But don't worry. As much as the people in life suck, things have a really weird way of just working out if you try hard enough.
We still have strong feelings for each other - but what our relationship needs, in order to keep the both of us sane - is definatly time apart. We constantly argue about everything - we have two completely different views on the world and over the course of the relationship it has placed a great strain upon the two of us. We have both said that perhaps this isn't the final end - who knows in the future we may get back together and in the meantime have learned how to better handle our differences. I feel a tearing inside me as half of me wants to just be with her right now, and the logical part of me knows that this break - be it temporary or permanant is for the best. I just don't know how to handle the awkwardness of seeing her again so soon, I suppose. We were really comfortable with each other. Even last night - when I was moving out of her place she had to take a shower while we were talking - so she just stripped in front of me. It completely blew my mind on how to thin k - there she was in front of me naked, and even though it wasn't sexual, of course sexual thoughts were building up, and at the same time I was having other thoughts, like why is she naked, does she get naked in front of all of her friends? I thought we weren't together, and so on and so forth. Situations like that make me uncomfortable since I'm not used to being caught off my guard with anything. (Of course from a completely male standpoint it made valentines day a whole hell of a lot better - seeing a beautiful naked woman showering ;))
If you and Jill still have strong feelings for each other, I don't see why you don't continue the relationship. But, I'm sure you have your reasons.
You'll prolly have to give it a week or two without seeing her... maybe a month or more. But certainly don't walk out of her life completely. There will always be the question of "what if things worked out?" lingering in the back of your mind... but you're going to have to push it aside if you want to be her friend. Which you certainly want to be, or you wouldn't have written this post.
Now as for how to get her out of our head... copious amounts of pornograpy, masturbation, and video games seems to numb the mind completely to pain. Though once you're dating a different woman, you won't give it a second thought
As for the "stuff" if you have no use for it, and she wants it, why not sell it to her at the "nerd friend" price? That way she still gets to keep it and you make back some of the money you'd get for selling it. If not, how much you selling the computer and PS2 for? ;-)
But don't worry. As much as the people in life suck, things have a really weird way of just working out if you try hard enough.
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Sorry - it was too good of an opening to pass up.
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