Miss Manners Is My Hero. <3
Sometimes, you come across something that brings to mind Terry Pratchett's axiom about multiple exclamation points. Other times, you come across something that just proves that this truly is the era of entitlement.
Sometimes, you find these things together.
And every so often, they are submitted to Miss Manners.
....
:D
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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have been to occasions that do not have my favourite nonalcoholic drink... DIET DECAF COLA!!!!!! I suggest you tel the host to let everyone know with/in the invitations what non-alcohlic drinks will be available. The host should suggest if anyon has a particular type of nonalcoholic beverage not offered to please bring their own!!!!!!!!!!!!
After finding out the HARD WAY, I started taking my own nonalcohlic drinks years ago!!!!!
Miss Manners delivers the smackdown with class and sarcasm. <3
GENTLE READER: How did you get so hepped up without alcohol or caffeine? Miss Manners is worried about you. Please take a deep breath and sit down while she explains the concept of hospitality.
There is a difference between a restaurant, which sells you food that you specifically order, and a private party, where the host offers you refreshments that he provides.
The restaurant knows exactly what you want because you do the ordering. Hosts, in contrast, are friends who wish to see you for the sake of your company. They should also want to please you by offering refreshment but must guess what would be pleasing to various guests.
Providing nonalcoholic drinks is thus standard. Providing each guest with the exact brand and mixture he or she prefers is difficult and burdensome, part of the finicky-guest syndrome that has discouraged reasonable people from entertaining.
Neither restaurants nor people's homes should be treated like picnic grounds where you bring your own goodies. If you don't like what is available at a restaurant, you need not do business there. If you are not willing, for the sake of politeness and sociability, to content yourself with water but must always have your favourite drink, you need not attend parties where it is served.
Bitch.
Sometimes, you find these things together.
And every so often, they are submitted to Miss Manners.
....
:D
(Archiver's Note: All original punctuation has been kept intact. Enjoy!)
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have been to occasions that do not have my favourite nonalcoholic drink... DIET DECAF COLA!!!!!! I suggest you tel the host to let everyone know with/in the invitations what non-alcohlic drinks will be available. The host should suggest if anyon has a particular type of nonalcoholic beverage not offered to please bring their own!!!!!!!!!!!!
After finding out the HARD WAY, I started taking my own nonalcohlic drinks years ago!!!!!
Miss Manners delivers the smackdown with class and sarcasm. <3
GENTLE READER: How did you get so hepped up without alcohol or caffeine? Miss Manners is worried about you. Please take a deep breath and sit down while she explains the concept of hospitality.
There is a difference between a restaurant, which sells you food that you specifically order, and a private party, where the host offers you refreshments that he provides.
The restaurant knows exactly what you want because you do the ordering. Hosts, in contrast, are friends who wish to see you for the sake of your company. They should also want to please you by offering refreshment but must guess what would be pleasing to various guests.
Providing nonalcoholic drinks is thus standard. Providing each guest with the exact brand and mixture he or she prefers is difficult and burdensome, part of the finicky-guest syndrome that has discouraged reasonable people from entertaining.
Neither restaurants nor people's homes should be treated like picnic grounds where you bring your own goodies. If you don't like what is available at a restaurant, you need not do business there. If you are not willing, for the sake of politeness and sociability, to content yourself with water but must always have your favourite drink, you need not attend parties where it is served.
Bitch.