it all makes sense now
I saw a Vietnamese guy hand over some $100 bills to a Chinese guy, which the Chinese girlfriend explained "he owes him money from the casino". This is the same Vietnamese guy who approached me out of nowhere a few weeks ago exclaiming "you have two jobs to support your boyfriend's gambling?? Gambling bad! Tell him not to gamble anymore! He doesn't gamble anymore right? Gambling bad!" So as soon as the Chinese woman said "casino" I thought ah, it all makes sense now.
Similarly I had another Vietnamese guy approach me a couple of weeks ago asking me why I had two jobs. "What are you supporting?" "Uhh, me." "No way, you must have a child or something." "Nope, just me." "What, a pretty girl like you?" "Hard to believe, I know."
It reminds me of the Chinese woman who introduced me to her boyfriend, and said to me aside "he's not very handsome, but he's got money."
It reminds me of another Chinese woman, the girlfriend of a drug dealer, who asked me if I was single, and when I told her no she explained: "I ask because I really like you. I want to introduce you to someone really nice. I have a lot of brothers, all very rich and very nice, they would treat you really well. But if you have a boyfriend, it's ok."
It reminds me of the various times I've been told by the Chinese and Vietnamese regulars, girls who told me they don't work, their boyfriends and husbands prefer them not to work, they just spend their significant others' money.
It even reminds me of the time when I chuckled at a Vietnamese couple, when the boyfriend came up to the girlfriend and asked for his own money. "Where's the money I gave you earlier?" "I don't have it." "Yes you do, you have it in your pocket." "I don't have it." "Ok, so I'll just charge your ATM?" "Oh here it is."
Am I traveling backwards in time? But then I have to remind myself than when I lived in Korea I knew very few women who worked, as most women were mothers who stayed at home and spent their husbands' money on clothes and jewelry and purses. More women work now, but mostly due to economic demands rather than the actual social trends changing. So I think, but then I'm not too sure. But hey, I'm not one of them, which is... a good thing? Sure the idea of a sugar daddy sounds all fine and dandy, we have all joked about it, we have all laughed about it, but the reality never hit me until I got to know about these people's lives. It's sort of...interesting yet unsettling.
Similarly I had another Vietnamese guy approach me a couple of weeks ago asking me why I had two jobs. "What are you supporting?" "Uhh, me." "No way, you must have a child or something." "Nope, just me." "What, a pretty girl like you?" "Hard to believe, I know."
It reminds me of the Chinese woman who introduced me to her boyfriend, and said to me aside "he's not very handsome, but he's got money."
It reminds me of another Chinese woman, the girlfriend of a drug dealer, who asked me if I was single, and when I told her no she explained: "I ask because I really like you. I want to introduce you to someone really nice. I have a lot of brothers, all very rich and very nice, they would treat you really well. But if you have a boyfriend, it's ok."
It reminds me of the various times I've been told by the Chinese and Vietnamese regulars, girls who told me they don't work, their boyfriends and husbands prefer them not to work, they just spend their significant others' money.
It even reminds me of the time when I chuckled at a Vietnamese couple, when the boyfriend came up to the girlfriend and asked for his own money. "Where's the money I gave you earlier?" "I don't have it." "Yes you do, you have it in your pocket." "I don't have it." "Ok, so I'll just charge your ATM?" "Oh here it is."
Am I traveling backwards in time? But then I have to remind myself than when I lived in Korea I knew very few women who worked, as most women were mothers who stayed at home and spent their husbands' money on clothes and jewelry and purses. More women work now, but mostly due to economic demands rather than the actual social trends changing. So I think, but then I'm not too sure. But hey, I'm not one of them, which is... a good thing? Sure the idea of a sugar daddy sounds all fine and dandy, we have all joked about it, we have all laughed about it, but the reality never hit me until I got to know about these people's lives. It's sort of...interesting yet unsettling.