Sex is not me, and I am not Sex!
I know that we human beings are sexual creatures, as most animals that God created under the sun are. We are the most intelligent species and can choose between right and wrong, good and bad, and physical versus emotional feelings. I am a 24 year old woman, I'm beautiful, intelligent, doting, honest, and love to have a good time. It is by nature that I would possess hormones that make for strong sexual desires, therefore driving me to want to mate. However, it is also by nature that I use the brain which I was given to decide what's best for me now, and in the long run. I am not sexually active right now, and have not been for the past 2 years. Yes, you read correctly 2 years! Contrary to that dirty little thought that just crossed your mind, no I am not climbing the walls with "randiness", or picturing every man that I see naked. I actually am quite content with being celibate/abstinent. Why I choose to be celibate/abstinent is because I simply need more than sex. It is to my belief that my need for general companionship (i.e. laughter, movies, dinner, video games, walks, talks, etc..) plus physical intimacy, is one that is much greater than to simply settle for sex alone. I'm not saying that I need or even want a boyfriend, I just want to know that after we roll away from each other I have the option of calling you to hang out, and not just to bend me up for a few minutes.
This is not my first foray into "celibanse", I have been without 1.5 years here, 7 months there, 1 month here, until I met a guy who I could at least have varying degrees of verbal enjoyment with. I have no problems getting a man to sleep with me; come on does any woman really? I'm just a very headstrong, tenacious, go-getter who doesn't believe in settling for less, especially when I know that more does exist. Sure there are those that rib me for my lack of "getting any", or say that "i'm fronting" about my lack of desire. To them I say ha! Simply not true. Most of those people are the same ones who are miserable and alone, even though they have a fuck-buddy or two. Unfortunately, the only tv example of a woman like myself that I can give is Charlotte from SATC. There was an episode about her lack of interest in sex, one about her holding out for something more, one about her willing to try the "sex-only" thing and not being happy, all examples of me. Ask anyone who knows me and they'll tell you I do exactly what I want or don't want to do in life. I don't try to step on toes, but I go for happiness. And right now, happiness for me in my intimate life is being without a simple sex partner.
This is not my first foray into "celibanse", I have been without 1.5 years here, 7 months there, 1 month here, until I met a guy who I could at least have varying degrees of verbal enjoyment with. I have no problems getting a man to sleep with me; come on does any woman really? I'm just a very headstrong, tenacious, go-getter who doesn't believe in settling for less, especially when I know that more does exist. Sure there are those that rib me for my lack of "getting any", or say that "i'm fronting" about my lack of desire. To them I say ha! Simply not true. Most of those people are the same ones who are miserable and alone, even though they have a fuck-buddy or two. Unfortunately, the only tv example of a woman like myself that I can give is Charlotte from SATC. There was an episode about her lack of interest in sex, one about her holding out for something more, one about her willing to try the "sex-only" thing and not being happy, all examples of me. Ask anyone who knows me and they'll tell you I do exactly what I want or don't want to do in life. I don't try to step on toes, but I go for happiness. And right now, happiness for me in my intimate life is being without a simple sex partner.