jerk reaction
in a movie, we usually see the lead character going through the many troubles which develop her into a better person. we see through her struggle of being cheated, lied to, defeated, and rejected... and we always see the partner as the villain. oh, and we hate the villain. i think we were all subconsciously trained to always side with the downtrodden one... and tears were donned by the good while sinister laughter becomes the villain.
of course, life doesn't imitate art. i find myself suddenly listening to how my friend dumped a certain someone in a very unceremonious manner, how another friend cheated on her boyfriend, or how another friend made someone who loved him feel like the number one loser in the world and other various similar situations, wherein my loyalties have regarded me to side with the "villain" in the story. suddenly, the person who i grew up to empathize with was in the other side of the story... and i find myself, consoling with the bad guy. of course, i don't always approve of my friends' actions - i listen, scold and later, console them.. but there's something deep down in your gut that makes you want to say to them, "man, you're such a jerk!" and i cannot believe i am actually friends with such an uncouth, callous, insensitive prick.
so yea, not that i'm washing myself of any jerk-like actions, but i just wanted to point out that there are better ways of saying 'no' or letting down people. i should've told my friend this when he mentioned "the breakup". i felt for the girl... but i had to do my part as a friend to put him in his place then support the decision. (note: support the decision and not the action - huge difference). it's just... a bit weird, i guess, that conventions don't work to my favor lately. i guess what was traditionally 'the worst' and link it up to a close friend, a relative's or probably my situation - and, often, it sounds normal to me already.
*sighs* honestly, when did left become the new right?