Yeah, in retrospect the lack of apparent notice of such things doesn't matter. I'm over it. Though, to retort, I was also raised to not cry or show depressed emotions, and in that interest was labeled a "cry baby" by my father, but that isn't to say that I wouldn't know how to respond to someone else showing such emotions. Then again, I only would feel comfortable approaching them because I have been there myself and I know that someone's acknowledgement of the situation would frequently be sufficient to squelch the negativity, if only temporarily. Thanks for the input though; it provides some useful perspective.
Ballroom has been pretty fun. It has also been disappointing in a way; the purpose of the team is to prepare people for competitions, but I have not competed yet and won't be able to do so until next semester. The irony is that the reason I couldn't compete is because I couldn't find a partner; usually there are far more followers (traditionally women) than leaders (traditionally men), but the group of newcomers this semester had an even distribution and many of the followers were not interested in competing (another unusual occurrence).
Also unrelatedly, I was going to add to that post, but then figured people might not get through it as is, so I decided not to. Didn't seem like a novel to me...
And yes, I am still around. I get email notifications about comments so I should have moderately prompt replies. :)
Yay! Very good to hear from you Dan :D - oh, and I didn't mean a 'novel' in a bad way. It was just years of nothing and then loads of info - but I'm all for info so, 'novel' yourself silly!
The dancing sounds like fun. I've got all fingers and toes crossed that you find a partner soon. I remember watching that couple glide around the floor like they weren't even touching the ground. If I can ever talk caveman into trying that I totally will! Right now we are planning our first attempt at a vacation together - we're going camping :/ Hummm.
Also, thanks a million for the input on the expressing emotions thing. (As a side note..Is it wrong that i kind of want to punch your dad in the shoulder and not in a friendly way??) Anyway - It's good to know if I ever am in that situation again it would ok to at least approach the person and try to offer some help/sympathy/comfort. Like I said, I'm very socially awkward and sometimes the "right thing" to do escapes me. (Sara took psychology her first year in college and informed me that I was an "anti-social recluse" LOL! I love having a label that explains so much :D)
Look forward to hearing from you again. Please don't disappear for years at a time - your LJ mom is getting old you know! :D
Don't put too much investment into worrying about my partner acquisition. I appreciate the sentiment, but try to avoid debilitating yourself with concern. By no means will I be able to glide around the floor like I wasn't even touching the ground for a very long time. Gotta start somewhere though, right? :)
Based on the information you have about my father (including only my biased opinions), I think that urge is quite reasonable. In fairness, I don't think I've mentioned his positive qualities at all. They do exist. However, given the venting nature of this 'journal', they don't really come up. So, no, given what you've heard that is not wrong.
Not to slight your lovely children, but I wouldn't be too confident in the authority of a first-year psychology student (which isn't to say that label is incorrect either). :P I've taken Psych 101 myself, and at least at my school the curriculum offers nothing a little observation can't determine.
In any case, glad I could help. I shall make an effort to not disappear. :)
Sorry - already totally emotionally invested in you finding a partner for the dancing. Don't let me down.. all this typing with fingers and toes crossed is difficult!
Dan - I'm glad to hear you mention that your dad has positive qualities. And that you see them. My life partner is aptly nic-named 'Caveman' for obvious reasons.. but I DO remind my kids frequently that he's not all bad and that there isn't anything he wouldn't do for them. He is a hard man to know, but his heart is good and if you can see that it's worth it's weight in gold :D I hope your dad is the same.
I think I mentioned to you a long while back that you young ones don't come with instructions and we do the best we can with you! If we mess up a bit, hopefully you will understand and forgive :D
I suppose it's now up to me to get you uncontorted enough to function normally...you might have to wait until the fall, I'm afraid.
I totally understand (read: think I understand, but only because I'm young, naive, and egotistical) the problems one might face raising children with no manual. I'm very much a rigid-structure-based thinker and have difficulty functioning in social environments with no rules or restrictions. I understand that parents will inevitably mess up with some things. Despite these understandings, I think my parents did a sufficiently poor job parenting that I feel very justified in holding it against them. This doesn't mean I will avoid them at all costs and shun them off the Earth, but I will avoid them at some costs and attempt to live very independently from them.
So, yes, he does have positive qualities that even I can recognize, but I wouldn't be willing to go so far as saying "he was a good father".
Ballroom has been pretty fun. It has also been disappointing in a way; the purpose of the team is to prepare people for competitions, but I have not competed yet and won't be able to do so until next semester. The irony is that the reason I couldn't compete is because I couldn't find a partner; usually there are far more followers (traditionally women) than leaders (traditionally men), but the group of newcomers this semester had an even distribution and many of the followers were not interested in competing (another unusual occurrence).
Also unrelatedly, I was going to add to that post, but then figured people might not get through it as is, so I decided not to. Didn't seem like a novel to me...
And yes, I am still around. I get email notifications about comments so I should have moderately prompt replies. :)
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Very good to hear from you Dan :D
- oh, and I didn't mean a 'novel' in a bad way. It was just years of nothing and then loads of info - but I'm all for info so, 'novel' yourself silly!
The dancing sounds like fun. I've got all fingers and toes crossed that you find a partner soon. I remember watching that couple glide around the floor like they weren't even touching the ground. If I can ever talk caveman into trying that I totally will! Right now we are planning our first attempt at a vacation together - we're going camping :/ Hummm.
Also, thanks a million for the input on the expressing emotions thing. (As a side note..Is it wrong that i kind of want to punch your dad in the shoulder and not in a friendly way??) Anyway - It's good to know if I ever am in that situation again it would ok to at least approach the person and try to offer some help/sympathy/comfort. Like I said, I'm very socially awkward and sometimes the "right thing" to do escapes me.
(Sara took psychology her first year in college and informed me that I was an "anti-social recluse" LOL! I love having a label that explains so much :D)
Look forward to hearing from you again. Please don't disappear for years at a time - your LJ mom is getting old you know! :D
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By no means will I be able to glide around the floor like I wasn't even touching the ground for a very long time. Gotta start somewhere though, right? :)
Based on the information you have about my father (including only my biased opinions), I think that urge is quite reasonable. In fairness, I don't think I've mentioned his positive qualities at all. They do exist. However, given the venting nature of this 'journal', they don't really come up. So, no, given what you've heard that is not wrong.
Not to slight your lovely children, but I wouldn't be too confident in the authority of a first-year psychology student (which isn't to say that label is incorrect either). :P
I've taken Psych 101 myself, and at least at my school the curriculum offers nothing a little observation can't determine.
In any case, glad I could help. I shall make an effort to not disappear. :)
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Dan - I'm glad to hear you mention that your dad has positive qualities. And that you see them. My life partner is aptly nic-named 'Caveman' for obvious reasons.. but I DO remind my kids frequently that he's not all bad and that there isn't anything he wouldn't do for them. He is a hard man to know, but his heart is good and if you can see that it's worth it's weight in gold :D I hope your dad is the same.
I think I mentioned to you a long while back that you young ones don't come with instructions and we do the best we can with you! If we mess up a bit, hopefully you will understand and forgive :D
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I totally understand (read: think I understand, but only because I'm young, naive, and egotistical) the problems one might face raising children with no manual. I'm very much a rigid-structure-based thinker and have difficulty functioning in social environments with no rules or restrictions. I understand that parents will inevitably mess up with some things. Despite these understandings, I think my parents did a sufficiently poor job parenting that I feel very justified in holding it against them. This doesn't mean I will avoid them at all costs and shun them off the Earth, but I will avoid them at some costs and attempt to live very independently from them.
So, yes, he does have positive qualities that even I can recognize, but I wouldn't be willing to go so far as saying "he was a good father".
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