What?! She's back?!
Back in Iowa City. It's good to be here, and to have the apartment to myself tonight. It's weird not to be able to get alone time at home. But it was a very good visit. I don't know that we've had a Thanksgiving dinner go so smoothly and for everyone, crazy great-grandmother included, to enjoy each other's company so much. I love my little cousins to death. We spent an hour on our computer watching Strong Bad e-mails, which they are finally both old enough to get. It's so nice to know that I'm still cool to them, even though they're becoming adolescent boys and I'm a yucky girl with cooties. Plus I got new shoes and a trip to the boats, which gave me some free money. Who could possibly argue with free money?
Before I left, however, there as an explosion of Jamie-related drama, which freaked not just me, but Abby as well, which is probably why I reacted so differently to it than I would have normally. I guess sometimes you have to see it from that other person's perspective almost literally to change the way you think about a situation. And while I was not happy about cutting the lines of communication as severely as I did this last week, I'm happy about the changes in behavior it has produced. He's going to AA almost everyday, he's seeing his therapist Monday, he has a sponsor, he's hanging out with other people. I just hope all that continues once we start hanging out again. I don't want things to go back to the way they were. He's made such amazing progress, I just want to see it continue, whether I get to be there to see it or not. I can't feel selfish about creating distance right now. I think it's what he needed to take those first big steps. Let's just hope there's a place for me and our friendship in there somwhere that's healthy and less dependant than what was there before.
Had a great night out tonight with some theatre people. Cara's French boy is in the States for two weeks, so she took him to Verde to meet all her friends. We tried miserably to speak French to him. I'm a little embarassed for all of us. It was just nice to relax with everyone and not think so much. I thought a lot at home and it got a little exhausting. I needed a night of laughter and theatrical silliness. Plus Rebekah and I did an Anton Holly/Wikewitch scene in the middle of Old Capital Brewery, which was way to much fun. More theatre should be done in the middle of bars.
Before I left, however, there as an explosion of Jamie-related drama, which freaked not just me, but Abby as well, which is probably why I reacted so differently to it than I would have normally. I guess sometimes you have to see it from that other person's perspective almost literally to change the way you think about a situation. And while I was not happy about cutting the lines of communication as severely as I did this last week, I'm happy about the changes in behavior it has produced. He's going to AA almost everyday, he's seeing his therapist Monday, he has a sponsor, he's hanging out with other people. I just hope all that continues once we start hanging out again. I don't want things to go back to the way they were. He's made such amazing progress, I just want to see it continue, whether I get to be there to see it or not. I can't feel selfish about creating distance right now. I think it's what he needed to take those first big steps. Let's just hope there's a place for me and our friendship in there somwhere that's healthy and less dependant than what was there before.
Had a great night out tonight with some theatre people. Cara's French boy is in the States for two weeks, so she took him to Verde to meet all her friends. We tried miserably to speak French to him. I'm a little embarassed for all of us. It was just nice to relax with everyone and not think so much. I thought a lot at home and it got a little exhausting. I needed a night of laughter and theatrical silliness. Plus Rebekah and I did an Anton Holly/Wikewitch scene in the middle of Old Capital Brewery, which was way to much fun. More theatre should be done in the middle of bars.