I don't care, I don't care, I just wanna play my game...
So, I've been avoiding this subject for years now, cause it seems like a place that causes more drama then it ought.
What subject? The ever messy one of 'lj friends' and unfriending. Oh noes!
I take a pretty basic view here:
1) I have limited time. This means that even if you're on my friends list, I may or may not read your lj on a daily or even weekly basis. It doesn't mean I won't either, though. If you've been around a while, I probably read it. If you're close to me in meatspace, I probably read it. Except on the days when I don't read anything.
2) You have limited time. That means that you may or may not read my lj. I understand and expect that. If there's something important that I need you to know, I'll find another way to tell you if at all possible.
3) I don't tend to take friending and unfriending personally. You probably shouldn't either. If someone I've known for a while unfriends me, I assume they have a reason and will probably remove them in turn - in most cases it means that they don't want to see what I have to say, and don't want me to have access to what they say. So it goes. I'm not likely to ask for an explanation unless you're someone close enough to me that it might indicate a bigger problem.
4) I use filters and a Default_View. I've been using these since they were first made available. If you are doing calendar counting and note posts you can't see, that may be what's up. I don't recommend freaking out about it. I have filters for things like "household fuss", "not_siblings", "address info", and ones for people in specific geographical locations. I also post privately from time to time. Oh noes! Maybe I am trying to hide something from you. Whatever will you do?
5) I like people. I find them neat. If someone friends me, there's a good chance I'll do the same in return. I don't bite (unless asked quite nicely).
What subject? The ever messy one of 'lj friends' and unfriending. Oh noes!
I take a pretty basic view here:
1) I have limited time. This means that even if you're on my friends list, I may or may not read your lj on a daily or even weekly basis. It doesn't mean I won't either, though. If you've been around a while, I probably read it. If you're close to me in meatspace, I probably read it. Except on the days when I don't read anything.
2) You have limited time. That means that you may or may not read my lj. I understand and expect that. If there's something important that I need you to know, I'll find another way to tell you if at all possible.
3) I don't tend to take friending and unfriending personally. You probably shouldn't either. If someone I've known for a while unfriends me, I assume they have a reason and will probably remove them in turn - in most cases it means that they don't want to see what I have to say, and don't want me to have access to what they say. So it goes. I'm not likely to ask for an explanation unless you're someone close enough to me that it might indicate a bigger problem.
4) I use filters and a Default_View. I've been using these since they were first made available. If you are doing calendar counting and note posts you can't see, that may be what's up. I don't recommend freaking out about it. I have filters for things like "household fuss", "not_siblings", "address info", and ones for people in specific geographical locations. I also post privately from time to time. Oh noes! Maybe I am trying to hide something from you. Whatever will you do?
5) I like people. I find them neat. If someone friends me, there's a good chance I'll do the same in return. I don't bite (unless asked quite nicely).