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[dangermousie]

1. Argh!!!! My big order from Amazon, full of Brit chick lit I was craving, was sent to the wrong address (my fault) and now I have to reorder and argghghghghghghghhgghhgh I want it now! I was never good at patience. I reordered from Alibris and now it will get here by Dec 14 but I want those books now! Especially Tash/Hugo ones. Boooo

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[sisterjune]

I confess I dont know how much respect I'd have for a grown 30 yr old man falling for a 19 yr old woman. I can't help but feel like the author wrote herself into a corner by making her SO young. Like would she be less pretty and relatable at 26 or 27? come on now. i mean its one thing when period romance novels make the heroines super young and have a big age gap in the couples but in this situation its like ehhhhh? but otherwise it sounds super interesting to me. i love horrible/hilarious people. so entertaining.

[dangermousie]

To be fair, the author also goes the other way - one of the other OTPs is a 21 yr old guy and a 29 yr old woman. :)

I don't know, normally the age difference might bother me, but it doesn't here, in part because the power differential is sort of even - despite his vast experience in the sack, it's the first time he's ever fallen in love and he's v.v.v. desperate thinking he can't have her, but also because she never comes across as childish. But mmv. I suspect I am too much of a sucker for the whole "super-seducer brought to his knees by power of love" to really object.

ETA: and the age thing is at least not swept under the rug, people do comment on it. So that's something :)

[sisterjune]

Yeah haha this is where my suspension of disbelief comes to standstill because like he's THIRTY years old and been in 209302 relationships and never fell in love even ONCE? even briefly? riiiight. Its obviously that whole fantasy where the woman was his first and only love and his true love and I'm just like *eye roll* because I don't know it strikes me as so silly, esp since I'd much rather someone have been in love, and learned from that experience so that when they are in love with me now they wont make the same mistakes. I'm sorry I'm not trying to criticize! We all have our things! I am gonna go shut up now. :x

[dangermousie]

I married the first person I ever love and I am his first love and trust me, it worked out very well - I like knowing I am the only person in his heart. MMV though.

As to how realistic the scenario is in the novel - not at all, I freely admit - but I like my bit of romantic fantasy. This said, there plenty of selfish people who spend their whole lives without loving someone - the fantasy bit isn't that he hasn't been in love in all this time but that he's actually fell for someone now :)

[sisterjune]

Awwww really? Thats sweet. I dont have alot of experience in relationships and by that i mean I have zero. But i did fall in love once, and it was mutual but it wasnt really a relationship per se and there was no sex lol. soooo yeah, i figured most people fall in love young. even me who barely interacts with people lol. I guess the idea of struggling to find the right one and then finding them appeals to me more than just finding them one day after no one, even though hilariously in my real life the latter is morelikely because of how people in my culture do relationships and marriage. but i am just cynical so, yeah, what do i know huh? lol.

[dangermousie]

People can have relationships, and pretty satisfying ones (I am not just referring to one-night stands) without love - with liking present. I think there is a difference between liking and loving. Mr. Mousie wasn't the first guy I dated or the first one I liked, but he was certainly the first one I loved (nor was Mr. Mousie plucked from a monastery - I may have been his first love but I was not his first gf). I was 21, close to 22 at the time (33 now). This obviously isn't true for everyone or majority of people but it is possible. I rather liked not having to compete with a shadow of the past. I suppose even if I was with someone who loved someone else before, I'd need to know I was loved the most. But luckily, it's not an issue