Trusting her choice...
I was talking to a common friend of mine and my gf this evening, telling her I am not sure if my gf made the right choice to be with me.
Previously, she told me that some transwomen do not raise a stink about being molested, because they feel flattered ppl like them. Gosh.
In the same vein, I was afraid my gf is doing the same, especially since this is her first relationship. Like, is she flattered I like her, that's why she is considering me?
My friend said, if you respect her decision, you should not doubt her. The person she knows my gf to be, is not the type who falls in love with whoever flatters her.
Still, I cannot help thinking if I am making her suffer more by being with me, because she takes the blame from my folks, and I have to date her on the sly most of the time.
Just an hour ago, another friend, a childhood friend in fact, assumed I was talking about my mother when I said "her" in making her suffer.
Yeah, she too.
So now two women are suffering for me. What the hell am I doing?
Ditto for another friend of mine with a lesbian partner, except she is living with her partner, so she can avoid her mum. I envy her, but I know this option is impossible till at least my gf has graduated.
2 choices: make mum happy + no partner, or make mum unhappy + unhappy partner.
Either way, I am unhappy.
I am trying to create a third choice now: mum happy + happy partner = I am happy
It's not easy; prolly will take years.
Dear, you sure you made the right choice?
Previously, she told me that some transwomen do not raise a stink about being molested, because they feel flattered ppl like them. Gosh.
In the same vein, I was afraid my gf is doing the same, especially since this is her first relationship. Like, is she flattered I like her, that's why she is considering me?
My friend said, if you respect her decision, you should not doubt her. The person she knows my gf to be, is not the type who falls in love with whoever flatters her.
Still, I cannot help thinking if I am making her suffer more by being with me, because she takes the blame from my folks, and I have to date her on the sly most of the time.
Just an hour ago, another friend, a childhood friend in fact, assumed I was talking about my mother when I said "her" in making her suffer.
Yeah, she too.
So now two women are suffering for me. What the hell am I doing?
Ditto for another friend of mine with a lesbian partner, except she is living with her partner, so she can avoid her mum. I envy her, but I know this option is impossible till at least my gf has graduated.
2 choices: make mum happy + no partner, or make mum unhappy + unhappy partner.
Either way, I am unhappy.
I am trying to create a third choice now: mum happy + happy partner = I am happy
It's not easy; prolly will take years.
Dear, you sure you made the right choice?