Dancing

[dancingguy]

In a couple of places, there have been threads / comments about dacning, getting dance partners, interactions between older males and "cute young things", etc. I'm going to comment here, and post likes elsewhere, so that I can get all my thoughts on this in one place.

1: Compliments.
A couple of people (purchasemonkey and corpsefairy come immediately to mind) have

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[marianme]

For compliments I mostly prefer #1 because usually I've selected what I'm going to wear and think that it looks great and will have no problems immediately saying thank you and feeling good.

If I'm wearing a great dress, but think I look terrible or feel terrible and am complimented about how good I look, it'll cause some internal turmoil because I don't agree. I'll probably say thank you anyway to be civil, but I won't believe the compliment.

And even for people I do know, if someone says I look great, sometimes I wonder if they're trying to hit on me and that makes me wary and not as comfortable. There are several poly people at costumed venues and I don't always know who's dating who.

So the compliment that will make me feel the best is 1.

p.s. The Golden Rule of do unto others as you would have others do onto you sometimes fails miserably. Some people love being bitten, but I hate it. It's much more difficult but we would be more successful if we do unto others as they would like to be done.

[dancingguy]

The "Golden Rule" I follow is "do unto other's as you would have them do unto you, until you know how they like to be treated and / or how they treat others. After that, adjust."

If I'm wearing a great dress, but think I look terrible or feel terrible and am complimented about how good I look, it'll cause some internal turmoil because I don't agree. I'll probably say thank you anyway to be civil, but I won't believe the compliment.

That's too bad. Because I know you, so I can honestly say I think you're being too hard on yourself.

But I will note for future reference your preference.

[dancingguy]

BTW, thanks for posting user pics that actually make it possible for me to figure out who you are. :-)

[marianme]

Hey, considering that's your hand on my waist, if you didn't recognize me, maybe you'd recognize yourself. ;)

[dancingguy]

Oh, Good God, :-)

I believe you, but no, I never would have recognized myself there. ;-)