Loyalties
OK. I have several conflicts now that require me to determine my loyalties in a sense. These are all strong loyalties, but right now they are all driving me insane.
First off: I am up for a promotion at work. Not really a maybe this time; they have given me project management books to read and training me on the production servers. So, I am soon to be promoted to a project manager. Because of this, my boss confides a lot in me. The last few weeks, he confided that a coworker, and good friend of mine (and his, for that matter), was going to be fired. They just needed to have both company owners in the city to do so. I found out about it, and did not tell him. Not directly, anyway; I subtly hinted that perhaps he should look elsewhere, and that I was too (I was not actively looking, but was trying to get him to start as well). Last Thursday, the 8th, they let him go. He had no clue it was coming.
Now: was I in the wrong for not being loyal to our friendship and letting him know this was coming up when I knew, or was it OK since I kept the trust and the respect of my direct boss (who I also consider a friend) and also my company's management who has put such trust and responsibility to me, knowing that I most likely will not abuse it?
My second conflict is still ongoing. But I want opinions: was what I did the right thing or no? I mean, I was torn between two loyalties, as was my boss (who is really good friends with the guy who was laid off). Should I have done more? Should I have told him? I was under the impression that if he had quit, he would not be eligible for employment insurance, but because he was "let go" he was. So was that the right thing to do, so at least he can collect EI while job hunting?
Bah. This has been a crappy week.
First off: I am up for a promotion at work. Not really a maybe this time; they have given me project management books to read and training me on the production servers. So, I am soon to be promoted to a project manager. Because of this, my boss confides a lot in me. The last few weeks, he confided that a coworker, and good friend of mine (and his, for that matter), was going to be fired. They just needed to have both company owners in the city to do so. I found out about it, and did not tell him. Not directly, anyway; I subtly hinted that perhaps he should look elsewhere, and that I was too (I was not actively looking, but was trying to get him to start as well). Last Thursday, the 8th, they let him go. He had no clue it was coming.
Now: was I in the wrong for not being loyal to our friendship and letting him know this was coming up when I knew, or was it OK since I kept the trust and the respect of my direct boss (who I also consider a friend) and also my company's management who has put such trust and responsibility to me, knowing that I most likely will not abuse it?
My second conflict is still ongoing. But I want opinions: was what I did the right thing or no? I mean, I was torn between two loyalties, as was my boss (who is really good friends with the guy who was laid off). Should I have done more? Should I have told him? I was under the impression that if he had quit, he would not be eligible for employment insurance, but because he was "let go" he was. So was that the right thing to do, so at least he can collect EI while job hunting?
Bah. This has been a crappy week.