My roommate is a hoarder
My roommate has slowly worked her way into taking up 90% of the shared (non-bedroom or bathroom) portion of the apartment. I feel like I have tried everything including yelling, asking nicely, telling her how I feel about it, and threatening to move out to get her to clean up. I've tried helping her, cleaning with her, making bargains with her, and appealing to her logical side. She either flat out disregards me or blames it on her mental state. She's got asperger's and bipolar. I knew she had these mental problems moving in with her, and I'm cool with it, I've had my fair share of mental health issues. The major problem is now I'm a student barely able to pay the rent as it is and I can't afford to move out on my own. She knows this and I feel like she's using this to her advantage, although she is slowly pushing me out with her crap. None of my friends will come over any more, which doesn't bother her in the least because her hoarding is her safety wall. She's in counseling and on medication, and I don't even know if she was 100% stable if she would pick up her shit. I started doing all the dishes because it was making me so angry that I couldn't even use the sink when it was her turn because she would leave them sit for weeks. Now she just thinks that I'll do them for her and doesn't care that I hate doing the dishes too. This is why I won't just pick up her shit for her. First of all, I've organized her stuff before and she just makes piles on top of it. Second, if I start picking up after her, it will be all the time. I pay the same amount of rent as she does, and yes, I have a bigger bedroom, but she has a bigger bathroom (which is disgusting and has bags of cat litter stock piled in it because she doesn't "feel" like taking it out). When I tried to address the issue yesterday, she just looked at me and said I have a bigger room than she does, which is apparently why she needs the entire living room, dining room, craft corner, couch, entertainment center, and kitchen. I gave her as much space as she wanted in the hall closet, but she can't see her shit there, so it stays out in the living room. I'm messy, but I pick up and get organized when it starts getting bad. We had the carpets cleaned last April and all I had to clean up were my shoes. She's really a good person and I love her as a friend, and would love her as a roommate if she could cut this shit out with the hoarding. I can't take it anymore.
