How Stay At Home Dads Maintain Their Masculinity, and other bullshit...

May 17, 2012 01:06

I was chopping wood for the fire today, and I was suddenly reminded of the documentary I was almost a part of. They were looking for stay at home dads to interview. They wanted to find out about what it was like to be a stay at home dad in the modern world, and one of the things they said was, "What does a stay-at-home dad do to maintain his ( Read more... )

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mireille21 May 17 2012, 04:16:17 UTC
Thanks Danny. I might respond a bit more coherently after I've had a little bit of a cry.

This week's bugbear for me has been how people are going all trippy over how there is nothing in the budget for them yet us single parent bludgers are getting even more handouts. Y'know what, I supported myself and my children for over 3 years out of my own savings with *zero* government assistance. Assistance only kicked in once I was poor enough. I've been looking for work for months, and would happily give up the penny-counting existence to be able to do a bit of 'real' work for a change. You don't get any help from centrelink? Be grateful, that probably means you're doing alright. Centrelink benefits are not over and above your paypacket you nit, they are just enough to get by if you're lucky. (And not even that really, I'm not currently paying down my mortgage at all and don't received rent assistance.) And as you know Danny, the choice to be unemployed was not mine, but my employers, in a rather *cough* dodgy transaction. I'll trade you people complaining that extra $12 a week I'm going to get out the budget apparently, for having a paying job again, and some real control over my financial affairs.

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mireille21 May 17 2012, 04:21:44 UTC
PS. It also irks me when I get dirty looks from other parents about not being involved in the Kinder working bee or fundraising BBQ. Sorry, but OHS means I can't bring my kids with me, and sorry, but I can't afford to pay for babysitting while I 'find my community spirit' and get involved. This is why I do the book orders instead, so I can still contribute, it's just that because it's a solo gig I'm not visibly out there contributing. It gets me down to feel put upon because i don't appear to be as supportive of my kids as other parents. Besides which, by the weekend I probably don't have the spoons for it anyway, I don't have a hubby around to help out in the evenings or let me sleep in on the weekends ... or look after the kids while I'm out at the working bee.

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