Those Cherished Few
A friend and I were speaking on the terms of a baby's birth is a significant event in a persons life. Or should be cherished I believe. It has been a bit of time so I will admit the exact details are fleeting. What bothers me is the fact I think she was almost offended if not at least taken back that I wouldn't budge on my stance.
Perhaps found it disrespectful of how much it has meant to her. I am deeply aware, as I often am with others, of the huge impact her son's birth has had on her. And as the years have followed, his life. If she had the arm strength and he the tolerance to it, I am sure she would hold him up and show him off all she could. And in this I don't mean in some soccer mom PTA parent way.
Simply, she loves him.
She's a mother all the way through. I'm not sure if all of you have those kind of mothers that can be proud of you simply because you are their son. But that is what it is and I like the fact that she really is healthy in her emotional relationship with her son.
I've gotten off the subject but I felt it warranted some background to understand the strength of her viewpoint. Beyond that I am not willing to speak for her.
I found myself starkly on the defense of marriage and death being sacred in that they are the two events we directly have something to do with, for the most part. To point it out clearly I feel that a request made for a marriage or death, should be honored. As long as it is somewhat reasonable and not completely selfish. (Wedding gifts being some materialistic motive, not one of passion and love.)
With birth there is nothing to honor but life itself. Although it is an event with profound effects on most people directly involved I do not see it as cherished. To explain this I mean I cannot honor a dying wish at birth, nor a request for support in a marriage. It has it's place in our own lives but not so much in the child's itself.
Where she was completely set on calling it a cherished event. Perhaps it is, but only by my definition does it not draw this wording. As for my own dying wish I know it only to be this, for now.
I have been born of this land and raised within it. Though I may soon need to leave, if my death should come while I am apart from it's soil, return me here. Be it my body as a whole, or in ashes, for I feel deeply I owe also my final page.
Perhaps found it disrespectful of how much it has meant to her. I am deeply aware, as I often am with others, of the huge impact her son's birth has had on her. And as the years have followed, his life. If she had the arm strength and he the tolerance to it, I am sure she would hold him up and show him off all she could. And in this I don't mean in some soccer mom PTA parent way.
Simply, she loves him.
She's a mother all the way through. I'm not sure if all of you have those kind of mothers that can be proud of you simply because you are their son. But that is what it is and I like the fact that she really is healthy in her emotional relationship with her son.
I've gotten off the subject but I felt it warranted some background to understand the strength of her viewpoint. Beyond that I am not willing to speak for her.
I found myself starkly on the defense of marriage and death being sacred in that they are the two events we directly have something to do with, for the most part. To point it out clearly I feel that a request made for a marriage or death, should be honored. As long as it is somewhat reasonable and not completely selfish. (Wedding gifts being some materialistic motive, not one of passion and love.)
With birth there is nothing to honor but life itself. Although it is an event with profound effects on most people directly involved I do not see it as cherished. To explain this I mean I cannot honor a dying wish at birth, nor a request for support in a marriage. It has it's place in our own lives but not so much in the child's itself.
Where she was completely set on calling it a cherished event. Perhaps it is, but only by my definition does it not draw this wording. As for my own dying wish I know it only to be this, for now.
I have been born of this land and raised within it. Though I may soon need to leave, if my death should come while I am apart from it's soil, return me here. Be it my body as a whole, or in ashes, for I feel deeply I owe also my final page.