what is love, really?
Karamihan sa ating mga kababaihan, at pati na ang ibang sensitibo o sadyang pakialamerong kalalakihan, ay mahilig makinig sa mga kwentong buhay-pag-ibig ng iba. Kadalasan pa nga'y nagbibigay tayo ng ating sari-sariling pananaw sa pangyayari sa mga buhay ng mga taong sangkot. Mahilig tayo maka-"relate", mangutya, magbigay ng payo, at kung anu anuman sa ating mga kaibigan o kakilala na nakakaranas ng pag-ibig. Kaya nga siguro, ang pag-ibig na ang isa sa mga bagay na ni kailanma'y hindi maluluma sapagkat lahat ng tao ay nakakaintindi nito. At dahil dito, kasa-kasama na rin ang ating mga buhay-pagibig sa sanhi ng ating mga problema, sanhi ng ating lungkot at pagkabigo.
I've been listening to good times with Mo for the past month, and I always hear him say his philosophy about love and relationship. He says that it's stupid to fall in love at such an early age, much more to be seriously committed to your partner at the early twenties and get married right away. Every time a caller says that he or she is married, Mo immediately asks how long they have been married and at what age did they get themselves into that. If the caller says around 25 below, Mo would just criticize him and all. Of course, most of his listeners who are qualified in that category would be offended, as Mo calls them brainless (or mga hindi nag-iisip at napilitan). In his defense, late twenties or early thirties would be the appropriate time to get married, given that you have a more stable disposition in life. But that's not that simple. He also has it against long term relationships -- those who met and became a couple when they were teens (most of the time, in college), lasted for a long time, and got married. I have no idea why he's against such relationship structures, but then again, he complains about almost everything. Anyway, this morning's show is kinda weird because a couple of nonsense callers called in, and of course, they got into Mo's nerves. First, there was this twenty two year old girl (take note, she's twenty two) who was crying... and when Mo, Mojo and Andi asked why, she said it was because her boyfriend would not teach her how to drive! And ugh, even I got irritated! Hehe! That was such a big deal?! And she was crying over it on the radio, saying that maybe it's because her boyfriend doesn't trust her or anything. But Mo said "I wouldn't trust you either, with your personality and attitude, and all." I mean, please! You're twenty two! Act your age! Get a job, enroll yourself in a driving school! Don't sulk on the fact that your boyfriend doesn't want to teach you how to drive! And then she kept on babbling stuff about her boyfriend, which I happen to tune out because, really, how could you listen to such nonsense? Hay. So secondly, there was this seventeen year old girl who called in, and she seemed to be crying, although she denied being so. She gave out her phone number to the radio show and said that she just needs someone to talk to. So Mo tried to play this sympathetic-sensitive guy by telling her that she can talk to them. And then finally, after a minute or so of long pauses, muffled sobs and again, nonsense chitchat, she said that her boyfriend and her breakup, and it's been a couple of months since. Oh, and I forgot to mention, this girl skipped school just because she misses her boyfriend. Anyway, this girl's story gets a little interesting upon learning that her boyfriend slept with her 19-year old best friend and got her pregnant. Well, of course, Mo, sticking to his philosophy gave this piece of advice, "forget about it! go to a decent school, get a brain! get an education!" And the girl didn't let him finish talking as she continuously interrupted him, but when Mo said, "C'mon, that's puppy love, what are you, seventeen right?" but the girl protested,"It's not puppy love! it's for real!" and Mo, Mojo and Andi simply thought it was ridiculous that they cut off the line and proceeded with playing a song. Hahaha... Weird noh?
I mean, I was seventeen once, and there's no way that the love I had back then was for real! Come on, I'm immature, impatient, I lack the sense of commitment, I was jealous, idealistic,yada yada. It was all puppy love! That as I look back, I really think I was such a mess! I mean, why did I fall in love with a guy who lives a thousand miles away, and thought that he was the one?! Why did I fight for a person, who doesn't even have balls to commit to me, who was helpless, who was insecure, that he had to look for other girl friends to ensure his masculinity. Why did I fall for him and do those crazy stuff that I thought would salvage our relationship?! Think about the wasted time! Thirteen months, of wasted time.. and what did I get from it? Emotional trauma, clinical depression, anxiety attacks and other mood disorders. Why fall in love?! What happens when that feeling ends? Hindi ba mas mahirap maka-recover when it's all over?! Why are we all doing that to ourselves?!
I once again browse through my friends' friendster accounts, most of those friends I've known for years. I've known them with their previous boyfriends, and current ones. And I look at their testimonials to their former boyfriends... and... ugh.. kinda distraughting because when you see their words, it's as if they would last forever, but hey guess what?! they didn't! They all said that their relationship had its time, and it's better that they have their separate ways, blah blah blah.. Well, if we know that we would break up with our partners, then why enter a relationship anyway?! Because of all those lovey-dovey crap.. finding yourself in someone else.. Why enter a relationship, why love someone if you're gonna hurt yourself badly in the end? Is that really the price you have to pay if you're in love? Are you really supposed to take those risks just to be gratified in the end? Is there any reassurance that the result of your sacrifices would be good? Hindi ba sa strategic planning, you have to aim to be efficient, and to succeed in the end, otherwise shutdown the business.. and isn't one of the main considerations before a firm operates is that its costs must gain profits in the end, otherwise, don't even bother starting your firm? The situation never is the costs outweight the benefits! that's bad economics! that's a bad way of life! So ever wonder why we don't succeed? It's because we are too compassionate! Human persons are too emotional, too caring, too much into love...hay.. might as well be robots, so that we would feel nothing, and get to our goal efficiently.. with only technical problems to worry about.
Bitter ba? No, I'm not.. :P
I've been listening to good times with Mo for the past month, and I always hear him say his philosophy about love and relationship. He says that it's stupid to fall in love at such an early age, much more to be seriously committed to your partner at the early twenties and get married right away. Every time a caller says that he or she is married, Mo immediately asks how long they have been married and at what age did they get themselves into that. If the caller says around 25 below, Mo would just criticize him and all. Of course, most of his listeners who are qualified in that category would be offended, as Mo calls them brainless (or mga hindi nag-iisip at napilitan). In his defense, late twenties or early thirties would be the appropriate time to get married, given that you have a more stable disposition in life. But that's not that simple. He also has it against long term relationships -- those who met and became a couple when they were teens (most of the time, in college), lasted for a long time, and got married. I have no idea why he's against such relationship structures, but then again, he complains about almost everything. Anyway, this morning's show is kinda weird because a couple of nonsense callers called in, and of course, they got into Mo's nerves. First, there was this twenty two year old girl (take note, she's twenty two) who was crying... and when Mo, Mojo and Andi asked why, she said it was because her boyfriend would not teach her how to drive! And ugh, even I got irritated! Hehe! That was such a big deal?! And she was crying over it on the radio, saying that maybe it's because her boyfriend doesn't trust her or anything. But Mo said "I wouldn't trust you either, with your personality and attitude, and all." I mean, please! You're twenty two! Act your age! Get a job, enroll yourself in a driving school! Don't sulk on the fact that your boyfriend doesn't want to teach you how to drive! And then she kept on babbling stuff about her boyfriend, which I happen to tune out because, really, how could you listen to such nonsense? Hay. So secondly, there was this seventeen year old girl who called in, and she seemed to be crying, although she denied being so. She gave out her phone number to the radio show and said that she just needs someone to talk to. So Mo tried to play this sympathetic-sensitive guy by telling her that she can talk to them. And then finally, after a minute or so of long pauses, muffled sobs and again, nonsense chitchat, she said that her boyfriend and her breakup, and it's been a couple of months since. Oh, and I forgot to mention, this girl skipped school just because she misses her boyfriend. Anyway, this girl's story gets a little interesting upon learning that her boyfriend slept with her 19-year old best friend and got her pregnant. Well, of course, Mo, sticking to his philosophy gave this piece of advice, "forget about it! go to a decent school, get a brain! get an education!" And the girl didn't let him finish talking as she continuously interrupted him, but when Mo said, "C'mon, that's puppy love, what are you, seventeen right?" but the girl protested,"It's not puppy love! it's for real!" and Mo, Mojo and Andi simply thought it was ridiculous that they cut off the line and proceeded with playing a song. Hahaha... Weird noh?
I mean, I was seventeen once, and there's no way that the love I had back then was for real! Come on, I'm immature, impatient, I lack the sense of commitment, I was jealous, idealistic,yada yada. It was all puppy love! That as I look back, I really think I was such a mess! I mean, why did I fall in love with a guy who lives a thousand miles away, and thought that he was the one?! Why did I fight for a person, who doesn't even have balls to commit to me, who was helpless, who was insecure, that he had to look for other girl friends to ensure his masculinity. Why did I fall for him and do those crazy stuff that I thought would salvage our relationship?! Think about the wasted time! Thirteen months, of wasted time.. and what did I get from it? Emotional trauma, clinical depression, anxiety attacks and other mood disorders. Why fall in love?! What happens when that feeling ends? Hindi ba mas mahirap maka-recover when it's all over?! Why are we all doing that to ourselves?!
I once again browse through my friends' friendster accounts, most of those friends I've known for years. I've known them with their previous boyfriends, and current ones. And I look at their testimonials to their former boyfriends... and... ugh.. kinda distraughting because when you see their words, it's as if they would last forever, but hey guess what?! they didn't! They all said that their relationship had its time, and it's better that they have their separate ways, blah blah blah.. Well, if we know that we would break up with our partners, then why enter a relationship anyway?! Because of all those lovey-dovey crap.. finding yourself in someone else.. Why enter a relationship, why love someone if you're gonna hurt yourself badly in the end? Is that really the price you have to pay if you're in love? Are you really supposed to take those risks just to be gratified in the end? Is there any reassurance that the result of your sacrifices would be good? Hindi ba sa strategic planning, you have to aim to be efficient, and to succeed in the end, otherwise shutdown the business.. and isn't one of the main considerations before a firm operates is that its costs must gain profits in the end, otherwise, don't even bother starting your firm? The situation never is the costs outweight the benefits! that's bad economics! that's a bad way of life! So ever wonder why we don't succeed? It's because we are too compassionate! Human persons are too emotional, too caring, too much into love...hay.. might as well be robots, so that we would feel nothing, and get to our goal efficiently.. with only technical problems to worry about.
Bitter ba? No, I'm not.. :P