I knew he was a snake...
That's an expression we use around here a lot, in my circle of friends and family...
[b]"You knew she was a snake when you picked her up; you shouldn't be surprised that she bit you." [/b]
Whenever Maggie's husband complained that she was a control freak...
Whenever I pissed Tony off because I "have an opinion about everything"...
Because these are character traits that we possessed long before we ever married these guys, part of the personality that they were drawn to to begin with...No secret that I'm opinionated and outspoken. No secret that Maggie is a control freak or prone to yelling.
And so, here I sit, acknowledging that I knew Tony was a snake when I picked him up...I knew he was an asshole long before I married him, so it shouldn't surprise me or piss me off when he acts like one, right?
He did a stupid, asshole thing at Sara's ballgame today...and even when I tried to quietly and discreetly handle it before it escalated, he totally popped off and got loud and obnoxious with me in plain view of the parents and team. It's not like we were in the spotlight; most people were watching the game...but a couple of the parents asked me "what was that all about" and if I was ok because I looked mad after talking to Tony...and it just infuriated me that he acted like such a dick to me at her game.
We haven't discussed it yet because I'm giving him a day to get over being defensive as a first reaction when I bring it up, but it will definitely be discussed before Monday's game.
We seem to make so much progress...and then, two steps back. And I'm so tired. I mean, really tired. My brain is tired. My head is tired. My body is tired. My patience is thin on a good day.
Sometimes all I can do is sigh...
[b]"You knew she was a snake when you picked her up; you shouldn't be surprised that she bit you." [/b]
Whenever Maggie's husband complained that she was a control freak...
Whenever I pissed Tony off because I "have an opinion about everything"...
Because these are character traits that we possessed long before we ever married these guys, part of the personality that they were drawn to to begin with...No secret that I'm opinionated and outspoken. No secret that Maggie is a control freak or prone to yelling.
And so, here I sit, acknowledging that I knew Tony was a snake when I picked him up...I knew he was an asshole long before I married him, so it shouldn't surprise me or piss me off when he acts like one, right?
He did a stupid, asshole thing at Sara's ballgame today...and even when I tried to quietly and discreetly handle it before it escalated, he totally popped off and got loud and obnoxious with me in plain view of the parents and team. It's not like we were in the spotlight; most people were watching the game...but a couple of the parents asked me "what was that all about" and if I was ok because I looked mad after talking to Tony...and it just infuriated me that he acted like such a dick to me at her game.
We haven't discussed it yet because I'm giving him a day to get over being defensive as a first reaction when I bring it up, but it will definitely be discussed before Monday's game.
We seem to make so much progress...and then, two steps back. And I'm so tired. I mean, really tired. My brain is tired. My head is tired. My body is tired. My patience is thin on a good day.
Sometimes all I can do is sigh...