Settling for less
I've been guilty on multiple charges when it comes to settling. That is, settling for less than what I've bargained for. Of course, it's almost impossible to find the utopian fit, and that goes for most ladies and gents. But while shortcomings are forgivable sins, the numero uno gross sin in my dating book is settling for a romance-less relationship deal. That deal is the most worthless of shit and in my opinion. Maybe it's a case of temporary convenience, and maybe it gives you some sort of social advantage, but it undeniably tramples on the fun and enjoyment of dating. My first boyfriend was the first willing victim to my less-than-complacent settlement, and we did not date long. Last ex almost happened in my dating world by accident, one that eventually trapped me with guilt and obligation instead of romantic feelings. I did have one boyfriend (or should I say man-friend, technically because he is 25 years well past boyhood) who I had romantic feelings for. I had so much feelings for him, in fact, that a few months later it scared me away. Surely I would not be able to come out unscathed once my naivety and simplistic notions stopped working its charms on him. It was the only relationship I don't regret having, and the only relationship I mourn the demise of. I got out unscathed just as I planned, and less pleased with myself than before. I wasn't fucked up by my man. I was fucked up by my own paranoia and insecurities. How lame is that?
Romance is the most fortunate thing that can happen in dating. Mutual reciprocation of romantic feelings doubly fortunate. Without it you're settling for less, forced to display affection with each other like mechanical robots, with each hug painfully effortful, and each kiss less than arousing. What are you going to do when you develop feelings for somebody else, then were made to feel badly for this little un-PC transgression against the monogamous dating norm? Don't you have yourself to blame when it happens in the wrong place at the wrong time only because you would rather be tied down with a boring yet safe partner and reap the material and emotional benefits of being a taken woman?
Romance is the most fortunate thing that can happen in dating. Mutual reciprocation of romantic feelings doubly fortunate. Without it you're settling for less, forced to display affection with each other like mechanical robots, with each hug painfully effortful, and each kiss less than arousing. What are you going to do when you develop feelings for somebody else, then were made to feel badly for this little un-PC transgression against the monogamous dating norm? Don't you have yourself to blame when it happens in the wrong place at the wrong time only because you would rather be tied down with a boring yet safe partner and reap the material and emotional benefits of being a taken woman?