Love. Question Mark

[dahohaw]

Earlier today, Kelly asked me if I am in love with Will. My immediate response was probably not. It's a strange phenomenon when I have an idea of the answer but can not actually define the question. Love is one of those things, like god, that I just don't think about. In my world view, I don't need the existence of either and I don't want to waste

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[mangojill]

Yeah... that is a hard one. I think with relationships, it can definitely be really difficult to evaluate whether or not it is "love" or whatever. That being said, I also know people who drop "I love you" within a week or two. Ugh.

I think it's most important to just trust your gut (For instance, if someone proposes and it doesn't seem right, don't say yes just because you've been together for a few years and don't have any other prospects) and only stay with the people who make you feel happy, respected, etc. Fights are bound to happen, of course, but if you are confident that things will bounce back, then it's worth staying around. Anyway, I think that is better than sitting around stressing over whether you love someone and possibly sabotaging an otherwise good relationship with unnecessary stress. I figure that I don't stress over whether or not I love my friends. It happens or it doesn't, but only over time. The same should probably apply to romantic relationships, as well.

But maybe I have it all wrong. Then again, it took a lot of searching and dating to find anyone who gives me the stereotypical lovey-dovey feelings.