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The more I think about it, the more I believe that Sex and the City has such a huge following not because of the sex talk and the romance, but because of the friendships. Those four women love each other and always put each other first. They fight, they make up, they call, they have babies, but they never let their friendship slacken. And women crave that.
So why don't we have it?
There's the ubiquitous "I don't have time" excuse. There's also the "dicks before chicks" scenario, where women put their husbands and boyfriends first to the exclusion of their essential female relationships, often without realizing they're doing it. And nowadays women are supposed to have a career, a husband, a baby or two, and female friendships, and they often don't get the support they need from the men so they can develop the latter. Women are givers - they get so wrapped up in caring for everyone else that they don't take care of themselves.
Even Oprah says this is a problem, and she's not the only one. Magazines everywhere try to get women back into "me-first" mode. (This is probably the best thing any of them do.) Month after month women keep buying the same message because month after month they don't make any positive changes. This is so dangerous.
I sink into this all the time. This semester is a prime example. I took 15 hours, 12 of which were writing components, took on a column at the Daily Texan, volunteered twice a week, worked at the Undergraduate Writing Center, and did TDA until it died. Oh, and I have my boyfriend. The result of this ridiculous list of things to do was that I became extremely sick and exhausted from all the stress. I was too busy and tired to do anything remotely resembling taking care of myself.
I'm done with that.
So why don't we have it?
There's the ubiquitous "I don't have time" excuse. There's also the "dicks before chicks" scenario, where women put their husbands and boyfriends first to the exclusion of their essential female relationships, often without realizing they're doing it. And nowadays women are supposed to have a career, a husband, a baby or two, and female friendships, and they often don't get the support they need from the men so they can develop the latter. Women are givers - they get so wrapped up in caring for everyone else that they don't take care of themselves.
Even Oprah says this is a problem, and she's not the only one. Magazines everywhere try to get women back into "me-first" mode. (This is probably the best thing any of them do.) Month after month women keep buying the same message because month after month they don't make any positive changes. This is so dangerous.
I sink into this all the time. This semester is a prime example. I took 15 hours, 12 of which were writing components, took on a column at the Daily Texan, volunteered twice a week, worked at the Undergraduate Writing Center, and did TDA until it died. Oh, and I have my boyfriend. The result of this ridiculous list of things to do was that I became extremely sick and exhausted from all the stress. I was too busy and tired to do anything remotely resembling taking care of myself.
I'm done with that.