Exclusivity...
when two people decide to come together, there are a wide range of feelings that are associated with this event. i dont mean come together as in meet up, but to take that next step forward from just plain friendship. you could say its just bringing intimacy into the picture. but we can all agree that this is no doubt the best part of the relationship. the learning process, learning about each other, learning about yourselves even.
this is all fine and dandy as everyone knows, but when does it become more serious? when does the simple act of being together become more of a relationship? im sure everyone would agree that in the beginning it is merely considered just 'seeing' each other. so when does the word 'exclusive' come into the picture? is there a time frame? two weeks? a month? six months maybe?... the latter i think would be pushing it, but hey thats just my opinion. by six months im sure it would have become a fully blossomed relationship.
but yes back to the question... when does a relationship become exclusive? are we meant to approach each other at a certain time and ask 'so, are we allowed to see other people?' or is it meant to be a silent approach. achieve a certain level where both parties involved know somewhere in their minds that they are exclusive to each other.
i know people who express their interests in being an exclusive couple right at the beginning. i know myself i have the tendency to push for the issue of monogamy. on the other hand, i also know people who agree to allow the relationship to grow, without using words. to allow the relationship develop to a stage where monogamy is expected.... or am i just sounding silly now? i really dont know... maybe i should read over what i wrote, but oh well... LOL
myself, the knowledge of where i stand gives me security, makes the matter of making choices much easier, and gives me piece of mind. i guess that is why i posed that question... it has been sitting in the back of my head for a while but i just dont know how to deal with it... ah well
this is all fine and dandy as everyone knows, but when does it become more serious? when does the simple act of being together become more of a relationship? im sure everyone would agree that in the beginning it is merely considered just 'seeing' each other. so when does the word 'exclusive' come into the picture? is there a time frame? two weeks? a month? six months maybe?... the latter i think would be pushing it, but hey thats just my opinion. by six months im sure it would have become a fully blossomed relationship.
but yes back to the question... when does a relationship become exclusive? are we meant to approach each other at a certain time and ask 'so, are we allowed to see other people?' or is it meant to be a silent approach. achieve a certain level where both parties involved know somewhere in their minds that they are exclusive to each other.
i know people who express their interests in being an exclusive couple right at the beginning. i know myself i have the tendency to push for the issue of monogamy. on the other hand, i also know people who agree to allow the relationship to grow, without using words. to allow the relationship develop to a stage where monogamy is expected.... or am i just sounding silly now? i really dont know... maybe i should read over what i wrote, but oh well... LOL
myself, the knowledge of where i stand gives me security, makes the matter of making choices much easier, and gives me piece of mind. i guess that is why i posed that question... it has been sitting in the back of my head for a while but i just dont know how to deal with it... ah well