Who is responsible for my happiness?
ME, of course!!!!
Now did I learn this early in my life?..... NO.
Was it a difficult lesson?..... YES
Did I sometimes feel hurt and lost?..... YES
Do I still sometimes get off track and expect someone else to provide for my happiness?... YES, but I know that then I need to hand the whole thing off to God and let Him/Her figure things out.
So what happens if a person has survived many years here on this earth, interacting with all of us, but still expects their happiness to be provided from outside?
Number one, they are bound for disappointment.
Number two, it isn't realistic.
Number three, it puts a strain on those that person expects to see to their needs.
When someone makes you happy, that is a side benefit, and you are a fortunate person. When you actually stop expecting someone to do it for you is when you find a wonderful freeing feeling that allows you to pour love and happiness on those around you. And then you get it back in return and so on.... and so on....and so on.
What lessons put me on the road to realizing that my happiness was inside me? Too many to count I think. From flying screaming into this alien world at birth, through that parental separation when I was 19, through many friendships and trials, my children growing up and away, to co-dependency, therapy and beyond. Still working on it.
But how do you help someone else realize that they alone are responsible for their happiness? A tall order to be sure. It's a question that I haven't found an answer too.
The more dependent you are, the more difficult the transition when the greatest source of your happiness is a person and this person is no longer there to hold you up.
Now did I learn this early in my life?..... NO.
Was it a difficult lesson?..... YES
Did I sometimes feel hurt and lost?..... YES
Do I still sometimes get off track and expect someone else to provide for my happiness?... YES, but I know that then I need to hand the whole thing off to God and let Him/Her figure things out.
So what happens if a person has survived many years here on this earth, interacting with all of us, but still expects their happiness to be provided from outside?
Number one, they are bound for disappointment.
Number two, it isn't realistic.
Number three, it puts a strain on those that person expects to see to their needs.
When someone makes you happy, that is a side benefit, and you are a fortunate person. When you actually stop expecting someone to do it for you is when you find a wonderful freeing feeling that allows you to pour love and happiness on those around you. And then you get it back in return and so on.... and so on....and so on.
What lessons put me on the road to realizing that my happiness was inside me? Too many to count I think. From flying screaming into this alien world at birth, through that parental separation when I was 19, through many friendships and trials, my children growing up and away, to co-dependency, therapy and beyond. Still working on it.
But how do you help someone else realize that they alone are responsible for their happiness? A tall order to be sure. It's a question that I haven't found an answer too.
The more dependent you are, the more difficult the transition when the greatest source of your happiness is a person and this person is no longer there to hold you up.