I miss my grandbabies...
I am fretting about them. I haven't seen K since M's 2 hour visitation at Christmas and the boys haven't made it over for at least a month. Not to mention R who I have never seen up close and personal.
I am frustrated with M because he can't seem to talk to me about things. From what I see, he doesn't seem to blame his X for anything the kids say or do. I don't believe that at all!!! I think she is behind it all.
If you read about Hostile Aggressive Parenting, you are reading about the X. I agree there is probably an underlying personality disorder.
In the past I have had my terms mixed up. I thought it was Parental Alienation Syndrome that the X had, but now I realize that could be what the kids are learning from the X.
I believe the X's Dad is just like his daughter and alienated us other Grandparents as much as possible even when things were okay. The kids call him "Papa."
But the concept must be beyond M. I am sure it is hard to look past the hurtful things the kids say; to the real culprit. Of course if it wasn't for L, I wouldn't know so much. He has always let things slip (ha, ha) about things the X has done or said. "It's okay to call Des a B____."
I probably shouldn't read about HAP because it scares me that the kids will not be able to show their emotions with others as they grow up. That they may show signs of PTSD. When I saw L in church a week ago, he was sitting, his Mom & maternal grandparents had stood for a prayer or hymn or something. I smiled big and waved at him. His first reaction was to whip his head back to make sure they didn't witness anything. I turned face front after that. I didn't mind skipping church this week because I can only take so much. Hope they got my valentines cards from the mailman.
I wish I knew how to be able to talk to M. With the new baby on the way, he has his hands full. He works lots of overtime cause he needs the money. Maybe it is just easier to let things go the X's way. That has always been the issue in their relationship, until he couldn't take it anymore and kind of imploded. I don't really understand the passive aggressive issues M has and why he is that way.
But I know it hurts him because he loves his kids so much. He sacrifices and makes sure he supports them. He wouldn't have to be forced by the courts. I think he is prime to be a victim in this case.
I am frustrated with M because he can't seem to talk to me about things. From what I see, he doesn't seem to blame his X for anything the kids say or do. I don't believe that at all!!! I think she is behind it all.
If you read about Hostile Aggressive Parenting, you are reading about the X. I agree there is probably an underlying personality disorder.
In the past I have had my terms mixed up. I thought it was Parental Alienation Syndrome that the X had, but now I realize that could be what the kids are learning from the X.
I believe the X's Dad is just like his daughter and alienated us other Grandparents as much as possible even when things were okay. The kids call him "Papa."
But the concept must be beyond M. I am sure it is hard to look past the hurtful things the kids say; to the real culprit. Of course if it wasn't for L, I wouldn't know so much. He has always let things slip (ha, ha) about things the X has done or said. "It's okay to call Des a B____."
I probably shouldn't read about HAP because it scares me that the kids will not be able to show their emotions with others as they grow up. That they may show signs of PTSD. When I saw L in church a week ago, he was sitting, his Mom & maternal grandparents had stood for a prayer or hymn or something. I smiled big and waved at him. His first reaction was to whip his head back to make sure they didn't witness anything. I turned face front after that. I didn't mind skipping church this week because I can only take so much. Hope they got my valentines cards from the mailman.
I wish I knew how to be able to talk to M. With the new baby on the way, he has his hands full. He works lots of overtime cause he needs the money. Maybe it is just easier to let things go the X's way. That has always been the issue in their relationship, until he couldn't take it anymore and kind of imploded. I don't really understand the passive aggressive issues M has and why he is that way.
But I know it hurts him because he loves his kids so much. He sacrifices and makes sure he supports them. He wouldn't have to be forced by the courts. I think he is prime to be a victim in this case.