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Do you think that in a relationship, either partner has the right to tell the other what friends they can or can't have? Or what the extent of their interactions with those friends can and can't be? To forbid the other partner to do things, non-sexual and non-romantic things, that they would normally do as part of their every day life, i.e. hang
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Second Paragraph: Yes.
I, however, have a very strong will and a severe objection to being controlled in any way and will fight like a rabid lioness if involuntarily physically restrained. No one controls me if I say otherwise.
I've seen too many women act in the manner you describe, where her man is the leader and she the follower. As he discovers that he enjoys this role more and more and the power he has over her, it inevitably spirals into abuse. Unfortunately, women like this only seem to attract more of the same kind of man and then are unable to fathom how to get out of these relationships and how to take control of their lives. It's like they almost NEED a man to control them.
I consider it an effect of an overly religous upbringing where the "This is the way it is because I said so" of childhood is replaced by "This is the way it is because GOD said so, it's in the bible, therefore it is TRUE." Too many people are raised not to question, just to accept, especially women. And the more they accept, the easier their life is. The place of the woman is to produce offspring, the place of the man is to dominate her and force her to produce offspring because his seed is all-important to pass on to the next generation. Some men are raised to think of women as nothing more than baby-makers, and some women are raised to think of themselves in the same role. And inevitably the two get together and more abuse is fostered.
I could sit on my soapbox and complain about the horrible consequences that result from organized religion, but I could type for hours on the subject and you'd be bored reading it. But you have my opinion. One person should NEVER control another to that extent. Ever. For any reason. Abuse intervention should be invoked by friends if necessary. This is the word of a free-thinker.
[And if your involuntary reaction to the last sentence was to think "Praise be to god," you were raised Catholic. :)]
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