Okay, I was about to thank you for your original apology, and those thanks still stand.
However, I totally reject the phrase 'politically correct feminist bullshit'. That's often chauvinist code for 'feminists telling me to change my behaviour and I don't like it.' I'm not talking about political correctness, I'm talking about simple respect. You wouldn't pay that sort of crass 'compliment' to a male friend online; as such, the advance was sexual, uninvited and inappropriate in the context of a friend's random journal update.
It's probably impossible to understand if you haven't been on the receiving end, but take it from me that, even if one is a sexually open person, receiving random sexual comments from strangers on one's LJ, blog or other personal online space is very upsetting indeed.
It's the equivalent of, IRL, reaching over to squeeze a female friend's tits and then telling her that she shouldn't mind, that she should take it as a compliment. It's not your right to tell someone how they should respond to your sexual actions. Noone has a right to tell someone what's 'light hearted' or not.
Of course, we don't have sentientfiction's point of view here - and I don't think that it's necessary if she doesn't want to give it, it's the principle of the intrusion that matters. As a feminist and a shy woman and someone who's met sentientfiction both in person and by proxy, as she's a very close friend of my partner, I was offended on her behalf, just as I'd be personally offended if I saw any man grope a stranger in the street.
However, I totally reject the phrase 'politically correct feminist bullshit'. That's often chauvinist code for 'feminists telling me to change my behaviour and I don't like it.' I'm not talking about political correctness, I'm talking about simple respect. You wouldn't pay that sort of crass 'compliment' to a male friend online; as such, the advance was sexual, uninvited and inappropriate in the context of a friend's random journal update.
It's probably impossible to understand if you haven't been on the receiving end, but take it from me that, even if one is a sexually open person, receiving random sexual comments from strangers on one's LJ, blog or other personal online space is very upsetting indeed.
It's the equivalent of, IRL, reaching over to squeeze a female friend's tits and then telling her that she shouldn't mind, that she should take it as a compliment. It's not your right to tell someone how they should respond to your sexual actions. Noone has a right to tell someone what's 'light hearted' or not.
Of course, we don't have sentientfiction's point of view here - and I don't think that it's necessary if she doesn't want to give it, it's the principle of the intrusion that matters. As a feminist and a shy woman and someone who's met sentientfiction both in person and by proxy, as she's a very close friend of my partner, I was offended on her behalf, just as I'd be personally offended if I saw any man grope a stranger in the street.
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