People Series #1 - Shane
First in the series, I'll be dedicating this entry to Shane tem_akh
I first met Shane online in the old #shadowrun channel. We talked to each other from time to time, and had met each other in person once or twice, but we didn't know each other particularly well. That changed when I got divorced. After the divorce I was living with my mum for a few months, but we both knew it was only temporary.
So on a whim, I asked Shane if he knew anyone that had a spare room. It turns out that Shane himself was soon going to have a spare room, as his existing flatmates were moving out. I actually talked to one of his flatmates online and they warned me "Don't move in with Shane. In the time I've lived here, he hasn't washed up once". I think that had the opposite effect to it's intent, because I just knew we'd get on famously.
Suffice to say, I moved in, and was there for 3 years before I moved out with Helena. They were three very good years. Shane is by far the best flatmate I've ever had, easy going, and willing to help out when I was unemployed and couldn't afford to pay a bill right away. He'd just pay it out of his own pocket. It was my pleasure to be able to return that favour to him when I was working and he was between jobs. This behaviour was something I'd never encountered before in anyone besides myself. To Shane, just like to me, money was a tool to enjoy life, and he didn't stress over it, nor let it come between him and his friends.
In many ways, Shane is a lot like me, yet little like me. He shares many of the same outlooks on life, he has the same forgiving nature, the indolent attitude to life, and isn't inclined to worry about the little things. Yet he is subject to dark moods that I don't experience, and is inclined to actively shut himself off from the world from time to time, something I am loathe to do.
The sad thing about both of us is that we're both a little too slack, and that can mean we don't catch up as often as we should now that I've moved out, which is a pity because Shane is someone I feel more comfortable with than nearly anyone else I know, and someone I understand more than most people I know. Considering I largely define friendship based on my ability to be open and honest with someone, Shane ranks as one of my best friends in the world, even if our mutual slackness has meant we catch up less than we should...
I first met Shane online in the old #shadowrun channel. We talked to each other from time to time, and had met each other in person once or twice, but we didn't know each other particularly well. That changed when I got divorced. After the divorce I was living with my mum for a few months, but we both knew it was only temporary.
So on a whim, I asked Shane if he knew anyone that had a spare room. It turns out that Shane himself was soon going to have a spare room, as his existing flatmates were moving out. I actually talked to one of his flatmates online and they warned me "Don't move in with Shane. In the time I've lived here, he hasn't washed up once". I think that had the opposite effect to it's intent, because I just knew we'd get on famously.
Suffice to say, I moved in, and was there for 3 years before I moved out with Helena. They were three very good years. Shane is by far the best flatmate I've ever had, easy going, and willing to help out when I was unemployed and couldn't afford to pay a bill right away. He'd just pay it out of his own pocket. It was my pleasure to be able to return that favour to him when I was working and he was between jobs. This behaviour was something I'd never encountered before in anyone besides myself. To Shane, just like to me, money was a tool to enjoy life, and he didn't stress over it, nor let it come between him and his friends.
In many ways, Shane is a lot like me, yet little like me. He shares many of the same outlooks on life, he has the same forgiving nature, the indolent attitude to life, and isn't inclined to worry about the little things. Yet he is subject to dark moods that I don't experience, and is inclined to actively shut himself off from the world from time to time, something I am loathe to do.
The sad thing about both of us is that we're both a little too slack, and that can mean we don't catch up as often as we should now that I've moved out, which is a pity because Shane is someone I feel more comfortable with than nearly anyone else I know, and someone I understand more than most people I know. Considering I largely define friendship based on my ability to be open and honest with someone, Shane ranks as one of my best friends in the world, even if our mutual slackness has meant we catch up less than we should...