National Coming Out Day
Ummmm, so for those who don't know, I'm queer.
Okay, let me unpack that a bit. I call myself 'queer' because my sexuality isn't the norm. I'm a Domme (a D/s female dominant). I am dominant both sexually and in my daily life, though I tone it down some depending on where I'm at and who I'm with. I'm into BDSM and my sexual relationship with my partner is never simply 'vanilla;' we're always doing some amount of kink and I feel like it's necessary for my sexual fulfillment--I don't think I could ever be happy with vanilla sex. My romantic relationships are not gender-normative; I'm attracted to gender-queering (cross-dressing, role switching, etc) and role-switching (calling my boy 'girl,' calling his cock a pussy, etc). I have also been delving into poly lately, which has been educational--it's really amazing how much jealousies fall away when I'm in a relationship where I feel secure and truly loved. I never thought I'd be able to share a partner, always thought I was too jealous for that but now it's like this whole other part of me has opened up and, instead of alienating me from my partner, it's brought us closer together.
So yeah. This is me, "coming out" (in a really low risk way. I actually did this on my Facebook as well, which is under my real name and which my family and my work colleagues all have access to. I didn't explain what 'queer' meant to me though. Some things, people at work don't need to know XD)
Okay, let me unpack that a bit. I call myself 'queer' because my sexuality isn't the norm. I'm a Domme (a D/s female dominant). I am dominant both sexually and in my daily life, though I tone it down some depending on where I'm at and who I'm with. I'm into BDSM and my sexual relationship with my partner is never simply 'vanilla;' we're always doing some amount of kink and I feel like it's necessary for my sexual fulfillment--I don't think I could ever be happy with vanilla sex. My romantic relationships are not gender-normative; I'm attracted to gender-queering (cross-dressing, role switching, etc) and role-switching (calling my boy 'girl,' calling his cock a pussy, etc). I have also been delving into poly lately, which has been educational--it's really amazing how much jealousies fall away when I'm in a relationship where I feel secure and truly loved. I never thought I'd be able to share a partner, always thought I was too jealous for that but now it's like this whole other part of me has opened up and, instead of alienating me from my partner, it's brought us closer together.
So yeah. This is me, "coming out" (in a really low risk way. I actually did this on my Facebook as well, which is under my real name and which my family and my work colleagues all have access to. I didn't explain what 'queer' meant to me though. Some things, people at work don't need to know XD)