Sadness Baths and Geopolitical Problem Solving: Aka Cy has thoughts

[cypanache]

Normally I would just post this over on tumblr but it's long and tumblr hates me right now.  So the point is I have now seen 'The Treaty' twice and have watched the preview clip for 'Smallest Park'.  And given this and what I've read of the spoilers for the next two episodes, I have some thoughts that I'm working through regarding this arc.

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[cypanache]

I think that could be a fair interpretation of the storyline. Like I said a lot of my issues stem from this whole 'inkblot' problem I have with Leslie.

And I completely agree that you need all of the other components in your life the similar interests and the fact that you fit, etc. Those things are really how you fall in love with someone.

The admiration thing though . . . it's not that I don't think Leslie could be in love with Ben without it. Because I think she can and may in fact already be there. It's that and this is a bad comparison but I'm having trouble thinking of a better one early in the morning. But without the admiration of the other person, the recognition and belief that there are things they bring to a relationship and to the world at which they are so much better than you, you have that danger of taking that person for granted. Like an 'invisible housewife' whose husband doesn't see everything she does and all that she contributes (this is not to say all housewives are invisible please nobody go there). I think everyone in a serious long-term relationship should admire their spouse's talent in something beyond just what they give. But even in Road Trip when she was complimenting Ben on getting the bid for them it was prefaced by 'usually I do it, but this time you did,' which honestly is kind of a backhanded compliment.

I also don't want them falling into the relationship we've seen Leslie have with Ann. Where she feels like she somehow has to oversee her friends life, or otherwise she just stands still.

We should be clear here. This is not all on Leslie. Ben has not necessarily given her a chance to see anything like that. But as I said, I will continue to want it, until I get it.

[rikyl]

Okay, I see what you mean, and I would love to see that too. He definitely brings something to the relationship, in being more grounded and practical than she is. I'm not convinced everything that happened for her last season would have gone as well and led to being approached for the city council seat if he hadn't talked to her about responsibility initially and then helped her every step of the way with the festival. We didn't see it, but I just assume he made all the numbers work, and if he hadn't ... (I really really want to see that It's a Wonderful Life AU to explore this :). She did give him half the credit at the end of Harvest Festival, but like you said, the line in Road Trip kind of diminishes that. Maybe she just meant in terms of which of them is more known to passionately defend Pawnee. But she is Marlene's daughter, so no matter how much she loves and appreciates someone, it may sometimes come out sounding ... backhanded.

Leslie seems kind of unsure of herself this season regarding the political campaign, trusting people like Tom who she likes but doesn't necessarily trust in that way, and unquestioningly going along with the advice of advisers she doesn't know well. I'm making things up at this point, but I picture her missing Ben in those moments of self-doubt, because she trusts him and respects his opinions. So I hope once they're reunited and he's part of her campaign, we'll see more of her appreciating that.