I am so going to regret this
Meme from Kitty Pryde (im_a_cubs_fan):
Ask me any five questions. The questions can follow any subject you can think about. I will give you a complete and honest answer without avoiding any issues you may bring up. I encourage you to be as creative as you like with the questions.
Ask me any five questions. The questions can follow any subject you can think about. I will give you a complete and honest answer without avoiding any issues you may bring up. I encourage you to be as creative as you like with the questions.
2) Well, ahh, I know you mock it, but there's a reason Emma teaches ethics. I always end up with this circular kind of "Don't do that because it's wrong because you shouldn't do it," thing. If anything, I make people want to do the opposite. It's not that I don't understand moral subtleties, I'm just not very good at conveying them.
3) I always end up regretting the things that I didn't do, more. Does that answer the question?
4) I'd have to believe there was a reasonable possibility that they'd actually get to grow up in a world that was worth fighting for. Also, that Sinister had been wiped off the map and had nothing to do with the child being born, and didn't have any access to anything that happened in its life. In other words, it would take a hell of a lot. Though, you know, what I decide doesn't always seem to have an impact on what happens.
5) Taurus, but I had to look it up.
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And that's how you make it private.
Ethics. Emma . . . you know why she's good at it and you are not? Because it doesn't come naturally to her. No, that's not a slam. Emma has to know what the reasons are for doing the right thing. It's why I teach advanced compsci but not the entry class. The entry class is so easy, so natural, that I have trouble explaining it.
Doug would awful at teaching compsci, now that I think about it . . .
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At least, that's what it seems like to me.
As opposed to. . .well, take Jean. She always had all this stuff going on in her head, things that no one should have to deal with, but more often than not, she managed to get it right in the end. That, I admire.
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Thank you.
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Emma's like that, too. In a way.
She's had a lot to overcome, but she comes out on the right end of things -- more often than not.
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Isn't recently what matters?
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You started the question and answer session.
Is that not a valid one?
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Obviously.
Forget isn't the same as forgive. And I know damn well that nobody has the right to tell another person how to forgive someone, or when.
I just know that most of us have something we need forgiveness for.
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(I'm sorry Scott, it's not you, you're being fine. I shouldn't take out my feelings about Emma on you.)
I . . . forgiving people's not my strong suit. How. How do you do it?
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But if your feelings about her and your feelings about me don't have some kind of connection to each other -- well, I'd be surprised at this point.
As for your question -- Well, this comes back to the part where we started, which is that I don't really think I'm any good at dispensing moral advice. And God knows, I can hold a grudge.
But I guess there are two ways I know of to forgive -- one is to realize that whatever it was isn't such a big deal and the other person probably doesn't even care anymore and you're just hurting yourself by holding onto it. Take Jack -- ahh, the guy I was working for when I met Professor Xavier. He beat the crap out of me was kind of a jerk, and I spent a lot of time hating him, and then I just woke up one morning -- lots of years later, really -- and I figured out that I could think about him and there wasn't anything there anymore and I could let it go.
That it just didn't matter. I guess that's the easy way.
The harder way is when you realize that the feeling's not going to go away. And then, you -- or at least, I -- try to think about all the time's I've done something that's not so great -- or, maybe, the times I could have done something if someone else hadn't stopped me. And I think that usually happened because I was hurting or scared or desperate or insecure or short-sighted -- and that might apply to another person, too. And so, I think about the other person, and if we're trying to put what happened behind us, maybe there's a way to make it so they're not so -- scared, or whatever -- and maybe that can keep whatever it was from happening again.
Please don't ask me if it works. This is just the best I can come up with.
It probably doesn't even apply to you at all.
Looking back, I'm not even sure you were asking a serious question. So, probably, just ignore me.
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