You can hear me, but are you listening to me?

[cyclone76]

For the person who hears the problem:

An unwarranted advice is considered a nag.
Not everybody wants your advice when they grouse.
This is something i always forget.
I damn kaypoh.

Sometimes we just need to vent.
Sometimes we just need someone to acknowledge that we have similar worries and problems.
Sometimes, we just do not want to be told that we are weak.
Sometimes i should not bother with the advice.

It is indeed hard to withold judgement in a conversation or discussion.
Am i really listening to my friend?
Is he asking for advice, or is he not?

For the person who speaks of the problem:

An advice given is meant to  help.
It can be taken as a different viewpoint.
It can be ignored as unwarranted nagging.
But from a close friend, the intention should never be in doubt.

Sometimes we really want to help, but we can't.
Sometimes we get frustrated because you trapped yourself in the cycle.
Sometimes you know we're right, but you just can't seem to budge yourself out.
Sometimes you know that we know.

Are you just grousing to vent, or is it really a cry for help?
You hear me, but are you listening?