Words like violence / Break the silence / Come crashing in / Into my little world
I'm leaving a lot of these more general entries about going through the processes with an SEN child unlocked. Someone else might run across them and find them useful.
This is difficult.
I feel grief for the loss of my child's simple happy early years. And I feel anger that this is so difficult and so time consuming for me. And anger that this must be even worse for other people less capable.
Everyone thinks my child has what their child has. I get that. We all want someone to walk this road with us. And everyone thinks that their child's school is the absolute best and most awesome. If you didn't, I would question why you sent your child there, to be honest. Good choice, well done. It's not going to fix things for my kid like a magic bullet though.
I feel patronised. I can accept a diagnosis, but what I can't accept is a label stuck on my child right now when I don't agree with it. I'm not in denial. Telling me that I am, however gently, is patronising.
So I've thought long and hard about what I will accept, for me and my child, right now. And here it is:
I have a fiercely intelligent, beautifully creative and quietly sociable child; he also has traits of autism.
This is difficult.
I feel grief for the loss of my child's simple happy early years. And I feel anger that this is so difficult and so time consuming for me. And anger that this must be even worse for other people less capable.
Everyone thinks my child has what their child has. I get that. We all want someone to walk this road with us. And everyone thinks that their child's school is the absolute best and most awesome. If you didn't, I would question why you sent your child there, to be honest. Good choice, well done. It's not going to fix things for my kid like a magic bullet though.
I feel patronised. I can accept a diagnosis, but what I can't accept is a label stuck on my child right now when I don't agree with it. I'm not in denial. Telling me that I am, however gently, is patronising.
So I've thought long and hard about what I will accept, for me and my child, right now. And here it is:
I have a fiercely intelligent, beautifully creative and quietly sociable child; he also has traits of autism.