Big Talk
We had a big talk last night about feelings and stuff and how certain things hurt us. I actually felt really good having the talk as she really opened up about something I was not fully aware of. She said she had become worried that our relationship was only sexually based but I told her to think about all the other things we did and that the sex part was just a 'part' and that it happened because we are both very attracted to each other and both highly sexed. Of course the talk lead to something we were trying to avoid doh!
Anywho, I am going to try really hard to not want to hold and hug her and then we shouldn't be close enough for anything to happen and that way hopefully she will see that we can do other things without falling into the trap. I want her to see me as a friend she can be comfortable with and do lots of fun things with without there having to be a motive. I had assumed that was what we were but i obviously had not looked at it from her point of view.
I tried to tell her we would never be together because i couldn't be second best to anyone and she told me i never would be and that i would always be her first choice but that she wasn't with me because of her thinking on the sex side. I'm not so confused now but have to work on understanding the situation and she has to work harder on understanding me and my pain and what she says.
Bit of a random post but needed to right something..........
Anywho, I am going to try really hard to not want to hold and hug her and then we shouldn't be close enough for anything to happen and that way hopefully she will see that we can do other things without falling into the trap. I want her to see me as a friend she can be comfortable with and do lots of fun things with without there having to be a motive. I had assumed that was what we were but i obviously had not looked at it from her point of view.
I tried to tell her we would never be together because i couldn't be second best to anyone and she told me i never would be and that i would always be her first choice but that she wasn't with me because of her thinking on the sex side. I'm not so confused now but have to work on understanding the situation and she has to work harder on understanding me and my pain and what she says.
Bit of a random post but needed to right something..........