Writer's question: You’re perfect, now change
Would you change anything about your significant other? What would it be?
I love that it asks the question & then with such certainty says "what would it be?" because God knows that there is something we would change. lol Your not perfect, your human. Now that i got that out of my thought pattern i will answer the question. I most certainly would change his......OMG - NOTHING! I love him for the imperfect person that he is because his imperfect self matches up with my imperfect self very well. Maybe i would say he could open up & communicate a little better but so could I & we try. I could say it be better if he was a little less insecure but i think insecurity is a need. No insecurities & your bound to quit trying. When we 1st meet somebody & we are getting to know them we are focusing on all the positive & trying. You have a lot in common; views, opinions, interests & you obviously like the way they look & act & the things that are different well, you try them out...you wana know & learn all you can about this person & find it facinaiting but; as you get more serious, more comfortable, more SECURE - i think you start noticing things you dont like out of fear & symotaniously start focusing more back on ourselves . Yes, i know - weird, but it freaks out the human phsychee when things seem ok. We get that "to good to be true" feeling. Instead, why not focus on the positive still yet? As I said, we dont naturaly do this - it takes work believe it or not. Took a failed marriage & reevaluation for me to start figuring that out....actually honestly it took me almost loosing the next one to say "wtf is wrong with me?". Whats wrong Christa is you are attracted to a certain kind of guy. Not always a bad guy but I start out thinking he is Mr. Perfect then when things get to comfy I blow up his flaws. He's got the least of any that ive ever dated & he was the one i had the least expectations for.... go figure. course, when you have low expectations everything up is a surprise! lol, At any rate - ive discovered i need to stop expecting the worst. I can Stop & realize that this person i fell in love with is very capable of my heart so, i should stop being a ass & take the chance. I can stop letting shit bother me so to speak & omg forbid, I actually open my mouth & tell him it bugs me before im pissed about it? Thats what we do, we get to this point where we forget how to say shit & then let it build up till we are pissed. Only ONE WAY to be in a relationship & BE HAPPY. OPEN & HONEST . S0 what would I change about my significant other? pff - very simply....My view.
Now in pure Christa Style - a video. lol
I love that it asks the question & then with such certainty says "what would it be?" because God knows that there is something we would change. lol Your not perfect, your human. Now that i got that out of my thought pattern i will answer the question. I most certainly would change his......OMG - NOTHING! I love him for the imperfect person that he is because his imperfect self matches up with my imperfect self very well. Maybe i would say he could open up & communicate a little better but so could I & we try. I could say it be better if he was a little less insecure but i think insecurity is a need. No insecurities & your bound to quit trying. When we 1st meet somebody & we are getting to know them we are focusing on all the positive & trying. You have a lot in common; views, opinions, interests & you obviously like the way they look & act & the things that are different well, you try them out...you wana know & learn all you can about this person & find it facinaiting but; as you get more serious, more comfortable, more SECURE - i think you start noticing things you dont like out of fear & symotaniously start focusing more back on ourselves . Yes, i know - weird, but it freaks out the human phsychee when things seem ok. We get that "to good to be true" feeling. Instead, why not focus on the positive still yet? As I said, we dont naturaly do this - it takes work believe it or not. Took a failed marriage & reevaluation for me to start figuring that out....actually honestly it took me almost loosing the next one to say "wtf is wrong with me?". Whats wrong Christa is you are attracted to a certain kind of guy. Not always a bad guy but I start out thinking he is Mr. Perfect then when things get to comfy I blow up his flaws. He's got the least of any that ive ever dated & he was the one i had the least expectations for.... go figure. course, when you have low expectations everything up is a surprise! lol, At any rate - ive discovered i need to stop expecting the worst. I can Stop & realize that this person i fell in love with is very capable of my heart so, i should stop being a ass & take the chance. I can stop letting shit bother me so to speak & omg forbid, I actually open my mouth & tell him it bugs me before im pissed about it? Thats what we do, we get to this point where we forget how to say shit & then let it build up till we are pissed. Only ONE WAY to be in a relationship & BE HAPPY. OPEN & HONEST . S0 what would I change about my significant other? pff - very simply....My view.
Now in pure Christa Style - a video. lol
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