Things aren't going to be what your kid is used to, sorry. If he's brought in at an older age he'll be expecting you to be older, and... things will definitely, definitely be different. Besides, you two being together won't make him happy if you're unhappy. Kids have a way of picking up on how the adults feel. Don't jump in if that's not how you feel. Try to be friends with him. If you spend a little more time with him, it might help you know if being with him right now is right for you or not.
And, maybe you should talk to him. About how both of you feel.
[Filtered]curiousgeniusDecember 16 2011, 13:27:24 UTC
[Well, that's true. Part of her was telling her that already, being together with someone just for the sake of a third person, even her son, it's not fair to anyone.]
Talking with him isn't really an option... Specially about feelings. And being friends... I suppose that's what we are, but you won't hear him say it.
[Filtered]curiousgeniusDecember 18 2011, 17:39:09 UTC
More than a little. And stubborn, oh so stubborn. And careless, even with his own health, I have lost count of how many times over the last two years he has brought himself to almost dying. And violent, too, of course. He's a jerk too, and so arrogant he makes you want to just strangle him. And he's so proud of himself and has such a big ego that if they were material part of his body he wouldn't fit in the whole village.
[And suddenly this turned into a list of all the bad things Vegeta is. Yet there's no real annoyance or hate in her voice. It's more like... That exasperation a mother has over her son's flaws but still loves and cares for them dearly.]
[Filtered] what's latecuriosgeniusDecember 25 2011, 04:58:00 UTC
[You hit t he bulls eye there, Aerith. Bulma flinches at the memory of a submissive and almost shy Vegeta, all conflicted because he was aware of being acting weird but being unable to control it.]
Yeah... I would have no idea how to deal with him if he was any different. Not that I know how to deal with him very well but I manage, you know? I already know what to say to make him react or do something I want or need, if he changed even just a morning greeting would probably be different. And creepy.
[Filtered] a strange word I am striking from my vocab 8|agardenerofgaiaDecember 25 2011, 18:35:19 UTC
Hee hee... [ Aerith may or may not have the wrong idea about "morning greetings", judging by her slight blush. ] Yeah, I get it. That's the nice thing about stubborn people, they're also predictable.
If it helps, it does sound like you know how to get along with him really well. And just that is pretty important. If your son ever does come, whether you're together or not it would help him to work with each other.
[Filtered] wow, I don't think I've ever heard of it, why use such a useless wordcuriousgeniusDecember 25 2011, 20:18:58 UTC
[In Bulma's and Vegeta's case "morning greetings" consist on them yelling at each other and arguing. Probably not what Aerith is considering.]
I would say I know how to handle him, rather than getting along with him. Hm, you think that's really enough? Maybe I really shouldn't over-think that after all.
I'd say there's all kinds of love, even as friends. Well, I might not be the best relationship counselor, I've only had a couple of my own. ...Actually, I'm...living with an old boyfriend. [ laugh ] Ah, I must just be the unconventional type.
Well, I couldn't stand it either but since we're not together anymore it's not my problem. It's theirs. It irks me a little, though, because he was terrified of girls and they didn't pay him much attention until I started to work with him. It's as if I wasted all this time and work for someone else to have fun with it.
[HUFF.]
And he still had the balls of claiming that I was being unfair and paying more attention to another man than to him. Can you believe it? Maybe I would have paid him more attention if he stayed home!
[Let's face it, she cares for Yamcha a lot and all. But thinking on their discussions and all still angers her. Then again she has always been easy to anger.]
Re: [Filtered]gardenerofgaiaJanuary 1 2012, 21:02:57 UTC
[ Oooh okay maybe she shouldn't have commented on that part... though it had pinged her because she'd always been a bit jealous of Zack paying attention to other girls before... ]
Well, hey, look at it this way! You already know you found someone else in the future... you'll have plenty of fun yourself! And, I'm sure it wasn't a waste of time. Even if he wasn't the right boyfriend, he must not be a bad friend if you live together.
[Aerith doesn't need to worry, getting irked and angry is how Bulma survives in the world after all. She got all jealous as well, but she remained faithful, and that angered her even more. Specially when Yamcha went and basically insinuated she wasn't being so after years of being on and off and enduring it all.]
Oh, no, I didn't mean he was a waste of time, but I just think at times I shouldn't have put so much effort in helping him to get over his fear and get all handsome. It was fun and all but really... I just don't like to do all the work and see someone else enjoy the results without they even giving me a thanks. Because he obviously won't even mention it
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[ And Aerith didn't mean that she thought Bulma was thinking of him as a waste of time...but there's not really a chance to say that before being bowled over by the rest of Bulma's tirade. The anger and what Aerith takes as Yamcha's jealousy... is that the normal relationship a girl would have with a SOLDIER? Thank goodness she and Zack are both the way they are, even if she had gotten jealous sometimes. ]
Wooooooow...Um... That Yamcha guy isn't here is he? [ That sounds like it might be bad. ]
If he is I haven't seen him. And I don't care! I don't have room in the house for him.
[Well, there's a room and she does care but... It would just be complicated.]
I don't want to even think of how things would be if he was... Specially if he was from before we broke up for good. Because that's possible in this place.
["Hello Yamcha, I'm your girlfriend, only older, prettier, smarter and single. Yep, no more Yamcha in my life. Oh, and I may end having a kid with the man who killed you, just so you know." Oh, God, that thought. Bulma makes a whimpering sound.]
It would be the worst if he was from when Vegeta killed him.
[Yeah, she doesn't want Yamcha here. He can stay home, with Puar and his girls and his travels to train.]
Things aren't going to be what your kid is used to, sorry. If he's brought in at an older age he'll be expecting you to be older, and... things will definitely, definitely be different. Besides, you two being together won't make him happy if you're unhappy. Kids have a way of picking up on how the adults feel. Don't jump in if that's not how you feel. Try to be friends with him. If you spend a little more time with him, it might help you know if being with him right now is right for you or not.
And, maybe you should talk to him. About how both of you feel.
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Talking with him isn't really an option... Specially about feelings. And being friends... I suppose that's what we are, but you won't hear him say it.
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[And suddenly this turned into a list of all the bad things Vegeta is. Yet there's no real annoyance or hate in her voice. It's more like... That exasperation a mother has over her son's flaws but still loves and cares for them dearly.]
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Yeah... I would have no idea how to deal with him if he was any different. Not that I know how to deal with him very well but I manage, you know? I already know what to say to make him react or do something I want or need, if he changed even just a morning greeting would probably be different. And creepy.
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If it helps, it does sound like you know how to get along with him really well. And just that is pretty important. If your son ever does come, whether you're together or not it would help him to work with each other.
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I would say I know how to handle him, rather than getting along with him. Hm, you think that's really enough? Maybe I really shouldn't over-think that after all.
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I'd say there's all kinds of love, even as friends. Well, I might not be the best relationship counselor, I've only had a couple of my own. ...Actually, I'm...living with an old boyfriend. [ laugh ] Ah, I must just be the unconventional type.
[ you think, Aerith? ]
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I also live with the man who's giving me problems now, so... I live with both my ex-boyfriend and my future... Huh... Father of my kid?
[Said pretty naturally actually. Nothing wrong with it, nope.]
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[HUFF.]
And he still had the balls of claiming that I was being unfair and paying more attention to another man than to him. Can you believe it? Maybe I would have paid him more attention if he stayed home!
[Let's face it, she cares for Yamcha a lot and all. But thinking on their discussions and all still angers her. Then again she has always been easy to anger.]
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Well, hey, look at it this way! You already know you found someone else in the future... you'll have plenty of fun yourself! And, I'm sure it wasn't a waste of time. Even if he wasn't the right boyfriend, he must not be a bad friend if you live together.
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Oh, no, I didn't mean he was a waste of time, but I just think at times I shouldn't have put so much effort in helping him to get over his fear and get all handsome. It was fun and all but really... I just don't like to do all the work and see someone else enjoy the results without they even giving me a thanks. Because he obviously won't even mention it ( ... )
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Wooooooow...Um... That Yamcha guy isn't here is he? [ That sounds like it might be bad. ]
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[Well, there's a room and she does care but... It would just be complicated.]
I don't want to even think of how things would be if he was... Specially if he was from before we broke up for good. Because that's possible in this place.
["Hello Yamcha, I'm your girlfriend, only older, prettier, smarter and single. Yep, no more Yamcha in my life. Oh, and I may end having a kid with the man who killed you, just so you know." Oh, God, that thought. Bulma makes a whimpering sound.]
It would be the worst if he was from when Vegeta killed him.
[Yeah, she doesn't want Yamcha here. He can stay home, with Puar and his girls and his travels to train.]
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