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[curiouselliot]

Since I have had my journal, I have had many people contact me. Many of them have become good friends, a few not so good friends, and others are just plain disturbing. I have been thinking about the various types and variations that come my way, and decided to highlight some of them (mostly the bad ones

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Hedonic Calculus

[bored_claires]

There may be a few answers to your question. Your readers, but more likely your viewers, may be baiting you for an answer to a question that is being veiled in wit. (A less-than-successful attempt at wit, but a brave attempt nonetheless.) They may be trying to get a “read” before risking rejection. They may be asking themselves, “How can I satisfy my hedonic calculus, while not serving as a catalyst to his inflated ego development?” These people have limited opportunity to meet their needs in a “real life setting” so they act out in maladaptive ways, due to an inadequate prospect for rehearsal. In the end, they come to believe that the maladaptive behavior has somehow gotten them closer to getting their needs met.

You may take a break from your web-cam modeling and Yahoo chatting and model, instead, acts of responsible communication. Tell your chat pal such things as, “When you say those things to me, I am unhappy and want to cry,” or “Can we take a break, before we lose our tempers and jeopardize our newly-established relationship?” or “Would you be so kind as to repeat after me? (Insert directive.)“

You could become involved with the person inasmuch as he feels comfortable modeling YOUR behavior. Over time, and with your dedication, the person will become desirous of your approval (an extrinsic reward for achieving movements toward establishing a better relationship with you)and,over time, change his negative, irritating behavior.

In a nutshell: Shad ap! These people are trying to establish a relationsship with you that is dependent on how responsible they are in paying their electric bill. This is suspicious in itself. They have more problems than just being weak-witted.

People are not disturbed by things, they are disturbed by their view of things.

Re: Hedonic Calculus

[curiouselliot]

I agree with most of what you have to say.

And you're right....I need to take a break from all my narcissistic "webcam modeling" (which, by the way, i do CONSTANTLY), and become a compassionate guiding light for these lost cyber-souls.

I will help them find Jesus.

Re: Hedonic Calculus

[bored_claires]

You are the last high. Endure your status.

Re: Hedonic Calculus

[bored_claires]

As an addendum to my reply to your quandry over weak-witted, fat, hairy men in their forties and fifties, if it is a person from the Middle East, you could help by saying, "Break take we can? Lose me temper if don't," or "Me cry want. Stop things say you," or "Kind be. Say what say me."