uncertainty
Right now I am in a different place.
My girlfriend of a little over three years was in a car accident recently. She had never been in one before, but it was a pile-up of 6 cars. Her's was totalled, though she made it away unscathed. Calling me, she expected comfort in a form unknown to me. So I do what I always do in those situations, try to make the mood a little lighter and burn it down (another way of saying I said the wrong thing at the wrong time). I had no clue as to why she was so upset until afterwards. I tried to talk to her numerous times through out that day and the following, but I was being ignored.
Kelly had never been in a car accident before. She was pretty broken up. What do you say to someone in that situation? I was at a loss. The only thing I could think of doing was rushing to be with her.
When she called I was at work. While we were on the phone I had to answer some questions, find out if it was possible for me to leave, and generally get the other employees to leave me alone. By the time I had done this Kelly was already upset to the point of not wanting to talk to me anymore.
I racked my brain the rest of that day. I made a friend rush over to pick me up so I could go to her. Her parents had already picked her up. I got a text message, "I am fine talk to you when i get back home". She was not fine. Enough so that she could not see passed the stupid thing I said and realize what I was trying to do. When we talked she told me that we have been together for three years. I should know how to comfort her. Honestly, Kelly is a wall. She pushes and closes her doors, and doesn't let people in. When she's upset, there is almost nothing anyone can say to help cheer her up. This traumatic experience, what can be said? If it were her 3rd or 4th car accident, this wouldn't have been much of an issue.
I love Kelly so much that it breaks me to think that she can't forgive a slip of the tongue From Me. The intention for what was said wasn't there, but I was dissappointed, and that slipped out. Not at her getting into an accident. Just that I wasn't going to be able to be with her. It is something incredibly selfish to think about. But in all honesty all I wanted was to be with her, to hold her, just to comfort her in the only way I know truely works. I am no good at using words when I am in a panic state. The woman I loved more than anything in the world was in an accident on a crazy freeway and could have just died. I didn't care at all about her car. Cars can be replaced. She can not.
I don't know where we stand. She said she has to sort some things out. My heart hurts, and I can't make it stop. . . .
My girlfriend of a little over three years was in a car accident recently. She had never been in one before, but it was a pile-up of 6 cars. Her's was totalled, though she made it away unscathed. Calling me, she expected comfort in a form unknown to me. So I do what I always do in those situations, try to make the mood a little lighter and burn it down (another way of saying I said the wrong thing at the wrong time). I had no clue as to why she was so upset until afterwards. I tried to talk to her numerous times through out that day and the following, but I was being ignored.
Kelly had never been in a car accident before. She was pretty broken up. What do you say to someone in that situation? I was at a loss. The only thing I could think of doing was rushing to be with her.
When she called I was at work. While we were on the phone I had to answer some questions, find out if it was possible for me to leave, and generally get the other employees to leave me alone. By the time I had done this Kelly was already upset to the point of not wanting to talk to me anymore.
I racked my brain the rest of that day. I made a friend rush over to pick me up so I could go to her. Her parents had already picked her up. I got a text message, "I am fine talk to you when i get back home". She was not fine. Enough so that she could not see passed the stupid thing I said and realize what I was trying to do. When we talked she told me that we have been together for three years. I should know how to comfort her. Honestly, Kelly is a wall. She pushes and closes her doors, and doesn't let people in. When she's upset, there is almost nothing anyone can say to help cheer her up. This traumatic experience, what can be said? If it were her 3rd or 4th car accident, this wouldn't have been much of an issue.
I love Kelly so much that it breaks me to think that she can't forgive a slip of the tongue From Me. The intention for what was said wasn't there, but I was dissappointed, and that slipped out. Not at her getting into an accident. Just that I wasn't going to be able to be with her. It is something incredibly selfish to think about. But in all honesty all I wanted was to be with her, to hold her, just to comfort her in the only way I know truely works. I am no good at using words when I am in a panic state. The woman I loved more than anything in the world was in an accident on a crazy freeway and could have just died. I didn't care at all about her car. Cars can be replaced. She can not.
I don't know where we stand. She said she has to sort some things out. My heart hurts, and I can't make it stop. . . .