hypothetical question...
that isn't so hypothetical..
let's assume that you are dating a guy(or a girl) for about 9 months... off and on. so then you guys break up and this time you're fairly certain it's for good. so about a month after you guys are broken up the ex decides to tell you about something that happened before you guys even knew each other. and this is something that really doesn't matter to you. you could definitely have gone the rest of your life without knowing it and by them telling you it's basically a stab in the back and is very obvious they only told you to try to hurt you... would you be more mad about the action or that you were told.
well matt did that to me.
friday night matt decided to tell me that before he and i ever met he and kelly (she used to live with him) got really drunk one night and ended up having a one night stand. fine... whatever. not a big deal. it's not like he and i were talking or anything. we didn't even know each other.
well i guess at one of the more recent parties at his house he asked her if she'd told me about that happening and she told him no. well he decided that it was something i needed to know. even though we aren't together anymore. and we're not gonna get back together.. he still felt it was necessary for me to know. so now i'm mad. not because of what happened. i'm mad that he felt it was necessary to tell me something that i could have gone the rest of my life not knowing and it would have made no difference. i mean it's not like we're engaged and he just wanted to clear the air before we got married or anything.. in that case then i would appreciate it.. but not now when we're not even together. diane said that it was basically like "open wound, insert salt.. kind of messed up"
he said he told me out of common courtesy and i needed to know. but my point is.. it was over a year and a half ago when she lived with him.. not last week. i can understand if it happened recently then yea tell me. and i'll get pissed at whoever i want to get pissed at.
whatever. common courtesy my ass. he should have paid attention when kelly said she didn't tell me. i think at this point in time she knows a little bit more of what is best for me to know than he does.
let's assume that you are dating a guy(or a girl) for about 9 months... off and on. so then you guys break up and this time you're fairly certain it's for good. so about a month after you guys are broken up the ex decides to tell you about something that happened before you guys even knew each other. and this is something that really doesn't matter to you. you could definitely have gone the rest of your life without knowing it and by them telling you it's basically a stab in the back and is very obvious they only told you to try to hurt you... would you be more mad about the action or that you were told.
well matt did that to me.
friday night matt decided to tell me that before he and i ever met he and kelly (she used to live with him) got really drunk one night and ended up having a one night stand. fine... whatever. not a big deal. it's not like he and i were talking or anything. we didn't even know each other.
well i guess at one of the more recent parties at his house he asked her if she'd told me about that happening and she told him no. well he decided that it was something i needed to know. even though we aren't together anymore. and we're not gonna get back together.. he still felt it was necessary for me to know. so now i'm mad. not because of what happened. i'm mad that he felt it was necessary to tell me something that i could have gone the rest of my life not knowing and it would have made no difference. i mean it's not like we're engaged and he just wanted to clear the air before we got married or anything.. in that case then i would appreciate it.. but not now when we're not even together. diane said that it was basically like "open wound, insert salt.. kind of messed up"
he said he told me out of common courtesy and i needed to know. but my point is.. it was over a year and a half ago when she lived with him.. not last week. i can understand if it happened recently then yea tell me. and i'll get pissed at whoever i want to get pissed at.
whatever. common courtesy my ass. he should have paid attention when kelly said she didn't tell me. i think at this point in time she knows a little bit more of what is best for me to know than he does.