HELP

[crystaldome]

How do you support someone when you don't feel that they're making a good choice and even they seem somewhat unsure/hesitant. As a friend I'm suppose to make sure my friends are happy and ...I'm not sure this choice will do that...so really how do you give support when you don't believe in what you're supporting?

Comments

[nishio]

you just do it...realizing that no matter what you will ever do or say it won't really change the descisions a person is going to make on their own...interfering in a large amount causes more irratation than help and things have a magical way of fixing themselves. plus...if this is a descision that is going to come back and bite the person in the ass later than they will need someone there when it all get out of hand goes wrong. interfering might make it impossible for you to be there when your truely needed.

however, to combat that view. make sure the person knows how you feel about it. as a friend you need to be honest as well... not saying anything when you really dislike what someone is doing isn't any better than lying to the person. by not saying soemthing it makes the other person infer that you agree with what they are doing. just say what you beleive without saying what to do. they may not like it but you both won't like the fight down the road happens and they say "but you agreed with me......well you didn't say you disagreed with me!!?!!"

[crystaldome]

thanks