I go off on tagents, but deep down it helps me more than you could imagine :)
So an ex-hookup just imed me. Honestly I saw it coming the minute Sarah Leone said "Haha Dave and his girlfriend broke up ." I thought it was going to be a trying to readd me on facebook, but now that I think about it, I'm pretty sure I blocked him so thats not a possibility. He told me his sob story and boy that was such an awkward conversation. Like I give a shit your girlfriend stopped loving you, boo hoo.
In my opionion Love is a feeling and it comes and goes, just like being happy or sad does. Not going to lie people can abuse it in many ways. Honestly the right thing to do is tell the person straight up when it is gone. It's going to hurt the other person, but personally I would rather be hurt right away, then have it dragged on because then it hurts even more. I can see why it's hard, people just want to spare other people's feelings. Except usually when it comes to me...I get the long dragged on version, instead of the rip the bandaid off one. Haha, but that's life. And you know what, in the end, I would never trade the way things turned out for anything. Wish I could tell that to someone lol but I have too much pride.
Anyway back to the point of this story. So then I got the old generic man lines when they want some, "oh i miss you, i still care about you soo much, sorry i was soo mean to you, i was a jerk, if i could redo it i would be soo much better to you, blah blah blah". And with the risk of being completely vulgar, FUCK THAT SHIT. To think that I would ever fall for that kind of line. You really don't know or care about me if you think that I would fall for that bullcrap. If that conversation wasn't via the internet I would have beat the life out of him. Honestly people are soo pathetic sometimes. I think I handled it well though. I could have been really mean but instead I just said I have a boyfriend, I don't go to southern anymore, and most importantly I don't really like you as a person. So then he gave up. I feel acomplished. Dicks like him do not deserve any kind of girl, they should just sit pathetically alone.
Honestly if this happened a year ago, I don't know if I could have done the same thing. I would have felt bad for turning someone down. Or maybe I would have just shyly ignored it. But now I can stand up for myself. I can tell people exactly what's on my mind. There have been soo many times were I have just sat there and have taken peoples shit like it was okay, and what's worse was some of these people were my friends. Granted I give some of my friends shit too, but if they told me to cut it off I would in a heart beat. I like to be told when I'm wrong. Honestly I am going to get mad, frustrated, maybe not quite understand at first, but I think whats important is that I now know what to do, and my actions will change. And I want to start telling people too. Oprah would love me for realizing this. Because it's not about being rude and putting others down when you do it, it's about listening, and saying that you don't appreciate it, and that it needs to stop.
I like the person I'm becoming :)
In my opionion Love is a feeling and it comes and goes, just like being happy or sad does. Not going to lie people can abuse it in many ways. Honestly the right thing to do is tell the person straight up when it is gone. It's going to hurt the other person, but personally I would rather be hurt right away, then have it dragged on because then it hurts even more. I can see why it's hard, people just want to spare other people's feelings. Except usually when it comes to me...I get the long dragged on version, instead of the rip the bandaid off one. Haha, but that's life. And you know what, in the end, I would never trade the way things turned out for anything. Wish I could tell that to someone lol but I have too much pride.
Anyway back to the point of this story. So then I got the old generic man lines when they want some, "oh i miss you, i still care about you soo much, sorry i was soo mean to you, i was a jerk, if i could redo it i would be soo much better to you, blah blah blah". And with the risk of being completely vulgar, FUCK THAT SHIT. To think that I would ever fall for that kind of line. You really don't know or care about me if you think that I would fall for that bullcrap. If that conversation wasn't via the internet I would have beat the life out of him. Honestly people are soo pathetic sometimes. I think I handled it well though. I could have been really mean but instead I just said I have a boyfriend, I don't go to southern anymore, and most importantly I don't really like you as a person. So then he gave up. I feel acomplished. Dicks like him do not deserve any kind of girl, they should just sit pathetically alone.
Honestly if this happened a year ago, I don't know if I could have done the same thing. I would have felt bad for turning someone down. Or maybe I would have just shyly ignored it. But now I can stand up for myself. I can tell people exactly what's on my mind. There have been soo many times were I have just sat there and have taken peoples shit like it was okay, and what's worse was some of these people were my friends. Granted I give some of my friends shit too, but if they told me to cut it off I would in a heart beat. I like to be told when I'm wrong. Honestly I am going to get mad, frustrated, maybe not quite understand at first, but I think whats important is that I now know what to do, and my actions will change. And I want to start telling people too. Oprah would love me for realizing this. Because it's not about being rude and putting others down when you do it, it's about listening, and saying that you don't appreciate it, and that it needs to stop.
I like the person I'm becoming :)