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I used to be lulufallsdown but recently got a new lj. I didn't often post (most recent one was here) but I commented a bit. I figured I'd give a re-introduction :)
About me and my boyfriend: We are an age-gap, distance, international relationship, and we met on the internet. :D I'm crossposting this so I'll just fill out the distant_hearts intro post and add a little more info.
Your name/LJ name: Leslie // lulilyblooms
Age: 22 (... almost 23)
Location: British Columbia, Canada
S.O.'s name/LJ name: Dave
Age: 36
Location: Portland, Oregon, USA
Distance apart: 823 km according to GoogleMaps
Age Difference: 13.5 years
Tell us how you met:
I joined the website http://homokaasu.org in October of '02, for The Kill Everyone Project (Oh that sounds great, doesn't it). Dave had been a member there since February and was one of the higher-ranked participants. He was a regular in the chat and quite friendly. At this time, I was engaged to a guy from Missouri.
Dave and I didn't chat much although we did have a couple of close friends in common - TKEP is a bit clique-y :) While I was living in Missouri with the now-ex on a trial run for 6 months, Sept'03 to Feb'04, I mentioned in chat that I hadn't watched much anime. Dave being an anime geek and a completely generous person, offered to burn me a couple of cds with the best of his collection. He mailed them out to me and that was the start of our one-on-one conversations.
I broke up with Missouri-dude in April '04 because things just weren't working. I had a couple of flirtations with other people but mostly just wanted to relax from the relationship scene, since I just got out of this 3 year relationship. When I had the chance, I chatted with Dave, but it was hard to get ahold of him because his job was starting to suck his soul out.
In August Dave decided to quit his job and just be unemployed for a bit, live off his savings. First he went out to Australia to visit people there, and then he planned to roadtrip around to meet other people he knew from the site. This led to:
First time meeting face to face:
October '04. I was the first person he went to see on his roadtrip, because I was the only one in BC and everybody else was south or east of him. I gave him directions, told him when I had a couple of days off, and he showed up with different beers to have me taste (ew, beer) and his laptop filled with anime and movies to watch (yay movies!). I knew he was a cuddly kinda guy and I expected some hugs and backrubs. On what was supposed to be his last night there, he took the backrub in a slightly different direction >.> after I unexpectedly got laid, we talked all night until the sun came up, and he decided to extend his visit an additional day (to not be a jerk, he says :D). Over the next little while we found ourselves in a relationship :o and in love :o both things we weren't expecting. Happy bonuses! It's been almost 18 months now.
How often do you see each other:
Approximately once a month, more often if we're lucky. We've had quite a few extended visits of a week or more and only once have we gone two months without seeing each other.
Future plans:
I'm trying now to save up my moneyz so that I can take a 6 month leave of absence from work, and live with Dave for that time. Kind of a trial run. In the very-near future, I'm going to see him in a week and a half for my birthday/our year-and-a-half-iversary/a small get-together. Two of our friends from TKEP are coming out too.
Where you see both of you in 5 years:
If I'm still with him, we'll be married, no doubt. I'm not much for sitting around once a decision has actually been made. I think it's very likely that we'll end up married. He's still hesitant, but I think he's not giving himself enough credit. A bit of a long story that I can save for another time, hopefully with happy updates as we've got a serious talk planned for Wednesday/Thursday. I hope that we'll be living in Canada as I'm very close to my family, but we'll see about that part.
Pictures to share?
there aren't many of us together ;_; I'm going to try and get some in April.
here's a picture of us on our one-year anniversary, October 7th '05
Here and here are two pictures of us in August in Colorado, 9 of the TKEP people converged in Denver for a few days. Dave and I are in the back, on the far left. The other people there were fantastically awesome and these pictures were taken at Casa Bonita.
crossposted to agegap and distant_hearts
About me and my boyfriend: We are an age-gap, distance, international relationship, and we met on the internet. :D I'm crossposting this so I'll just fill out the distant_hearts intro post and add a little more info.
Your name/LJ name: Leslie // lulilyblooms
Age: 22 (... almost 23)
Location: British Columbia, Canada
S.O.'s name/LJ name: Dave
Age: 36
Location: Portland, Oregon, USA
Distance apart: 823 km according to GoogleMaps
Age Difference: 13.5 years
Tell us how you met:
I joined the website http://homokaasu.org in October of '02, for The Kill Everyone Project (Oh that sounds great, doesn't it). Dave had been a member there since February and was one of the higher-ranked participants. He was a regular in the chat and quite friendly. At this time, I was engaged to a guy from Missouri.
Dave and I didn't chat much although we did have a couple of close friends in common - TKEP is a bit clique-y :) While I was living in Missouri with the now-ex on a trial run for 6 months, Sept'03 to Feb'04, I mentioned in chat that I hadn't watched much anime. Dave being an anime geek and a completely generous person, offered to burn me a couple of cds with the best of his collection. He mailed them out to me and that was the start of our one-on-one conversations.
I broke up with Missouri-dude in April '04 because things just weren't working. I had a couple of flirtations with other people but mostly just wanted to relax from the relationship scene, since I just got out of this 3 year relationship. When I had the chance, I chatted with Dave, but it was hard to get ahold of him because his job was starting to suck his soul out.
In August Dave decided to quit his job and just be unemployed for a bit, live off his savings. First he went out to Australia to visit people there, and then he planned to roadtrip around to meet other people he knew from the site. This led to:
First time meeting face to face:
October '04. I was the first person he went to see on his roadtrip, because I was the only one in BC and everybody else was south or east of him. I gave him directions, told him when I had a couple of days off, and he showed up with different beers to have me taste (ew, beer) and his laptop filled with anime and movies to watch (yay movies!). I knew he was a cuddly kinda guy and I expected some hugs and backrubs. On what was supposed to be his last night there, he took the backrub in a slightly different direction >.> after I unexpectedly got laid, we talked all night until the sun came up, and he decided to extend his visit an additional day (to not be a jerk, he says :D). Over the next little while we found ourselves in a relationship :o and in love :o both things we weren't expecting. Happy bonuses! It's been almost 18 months now.
How often do you see each other:
Approximately once a month, more often if we're lucky. We've had quite a few extended visits of a week or more and only once have we gone two months without seeing each other.
Future plans:
I'm trying now to save up my moneyz so that I can take a 6 month leave of absence from work, and live with Dave for that time. Kind of a trial run. In the very-near future, I'm going to see him in a week and a half for my birthday/our year-and-a-half-iversary/a small get-together. Two of our friends from TKEP are coming out too.
Where you see both of you in 5 years:
If I'm still with him, we'll be married, no doubt. I'm not much for sitting around once a decision has actually been made. I think it's very likely that we'll end up married. He's still hesitant, but I think he's not giving himself enough credit. A bit of a long story that I can save for another time, hopefully with happy updates as we've got a serious talk planned for Wednesday/Thursday. I hope that we'll be living in Canada as I'm very close to my family, but we'll see about that part.
Pictures to share?
there aren't many of us together ;_; I'm going to try and get some in April.
here's a picture of us on our one-year anniversary, October 7th '05
Here and here are two pictures of us in August in Colorado, 9 of the TKEP people converged in Denver for a few days. Dave and I are in the back, on the far left. The other people there were fantastically awesome and these pictures were taken at Casa Bonita.
crossposted to agegap and distant_hearts