advice time
A plea for some.... help, from all my female LJ friends.
I'm terribly new to this being bisexual thing so I'm a bit confused right now (not about being bi or not, that I know for sure) but about if what I'm feeling for a friend of mine is what I think it is.
I've always been a bit rubbish at this whole 'relationship' thing to begin with. My feelings often make no sense to me and I find it hard to know if and when I 'like' someone.
It's only happened to me a few times, both with men... but I think this is the first proper 'girl crush' I've had, so I'm confused.
Background:
This friend of mine; I've known her for quite a while, more closely since September 2010 and she lives near me and works in my local shopping centre so we see each other quite often.
She's also bi, and has been up, until very recently, dating another friend of mine, who's a lesbian.
We talk about things I don't often talk about with my other friends here (stuff like what's going on in our livies and how we're feeling *le gasp*) and I've really developed a good relationship with her, as friends. I've been there for her sometimes when she's feeling down and needing someone to hug her and talk to her (of course when we've seen each other) and I like it when we're together.
We do tend to be very touchy feely (holding hands, groping each other etc) but I'm like that with pretty much all my female friends and vice versa.
I ran into her on the bus the other day and she was cold so she straight away hugged me while I warmed her up (I don't really feel the cold anymore, apparently I'm really warm o.O). We stayed that way for the rest of the bus trip and it was really nice. I missed her when she had to leave, and now I find myself thinking about her all the time.
This happened and literally that night, she broke up with her girlfriend.
She's also moving to Perth (on the other side of the country) in June for a long (and unknown) amount of time.... so I know I'm insane for even thinking about this but I can't help it.
So what I'd like to know, first from my straight friends is: How do you feel towards your female friends?
Is what I described above sound like how you feel about your female friends?
And second, to my lesbian and bi friends: Does it sound like I fancy her? I think I do but I'm not 100% sure.
Or am I being desperate due to my utter lack of love life that I'm latching on to whatever is available?
Sorry for the post here but honestly, there's no one in my real life I can talk to about this... well, people in my time zone and who don't know the person I'm talking about.
I'm terribly new to this being bisexual thing so I'm a bit confused right now (not about being bi or not, that I know for sure) but about if what I'm feeling for a friend of mine is what I think it is.
I've always been a bit rubbish at this whole 'relationship' thing to begin with. My feelings often make no sense to me and I find it hard to know if and when I 'like' someone.
It's only happened to me a few times, both with men... but I think this is the first proper 'girl crush' I've had, so I'm confused.
Background:
This friend of mine; I've known her for quite a while, more closely since September 2010 and she lives near me and works in my local shopping centre so we see each other quite often.
She's also bi, and has been up, until very recently, dating another friend of mine, who's a lesbian.
We talk about things I don't often talk about with my other friends here (stuff like what's going on in our livies and how we're feeling *le gasp*) and I've really developed a good relationship with her, as friends. I've been there for her sometimes when she's feeling down and needing someone to hug her and talk to her (of course when we've seen each other) and I like it when we're together.
We do tend to be very touchy feely (holding hands, groping each other etc) but I'm like that with pretty much all my female friends and vice versa.
I ran into her on the bus the other day and she was cold so she straight away hugged me while I warmed her up (I don't really feel the cold anymore, apparently I'm really warm o.O). We stayed that way for the rest of the bus trip and it was really nice. I missed her when she had to leave, and now I find myself thinking about her all the time.
This happened and literally that night, she broke up with her girlfriend.
She's also moving to Perth (on the other side of the country) in June for a long (and unknown) amount of time.... so I know I'm insane for even thinking about this but I can't help it.
So what I'd like to know, first from my straight friends is: How do you feel towards your female friends?
Is what I described above sound like how you feel about your female friends?
And second, to my lesbian and bi friends: Does it sound like I fancy her? I think I do but I'm not 100% sure.
Or am I being desperate due to my utter lack of love life that I'm latching on to whatever is available?
Sorry for the post here but honestly, there's no one in my real life I can talk to about this... well, people in my time zone and who don't know the person I'm talking about.